I am parent to a couple of under 5s, and they are absolutely the centre of my world. However, I’m very aware when I’m meeting friends, they might not feel the same way.
I came in here as I have a friend who before she had children was one of the most cosmopolitan, emotionally intelligent and fun people I knew. Then the other day, I met with her and her toddler after a bit of a gap (although we text a lot) and was shocked by the change in her.
While she didn’t do anything wrong, she was a long way from the person I remember. Her child was centre stage and she seemed oblivious that anyone might find this challenging. She would break off conversation with me to sing long songs with her son, she allowed him to throw my children’s toys around and let him do a poo on his potty in our kitchen (is this normal? Surely the bathroom would work?) She paid very little attention to my two, one of which was a baby she was meeting for the first time.
Her son is fine, if a little on the attention seeking end. But overall he’s a very normal toddler. However, I find her total obsession with him makes me like him less.
She clearly adores her son, and I really do get that, but I miss my friend and wish that there was a way to see her without her son (she has the ability to do this, as she’s a SAHM and he’s in daycare 3 days a week, but she chooses to bring him). I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but feel if it continues like this, our friendship has an expiration date, which makes me sad.
Any advice?
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Help - my friend has become a boring mum!
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Sisken · 01/10/2020 14:49
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