NC'ed for this as I'm ashamed of it.
DD is 10. She's mostly a nice enough child with other people, though prone to tantrums and strops when everything doesn't go precisely her way. She's social, has friends, seems to be reasonably behaved at school (or at least she was till March, it's too early to say what difference the lockdown may have made).
But she won't put any effort into anything, doesn't care about anything, isn't interested in anything. With the exception of Minecraft and Roblox, which she would play all day and all night given the chance. It's just soul-destroying and pointless: she's bright and could do well, but doesn't care enough to try. Her writing's appalling, she has to be pushed to pick up a book (though she does like being read to), she's good at maths but makes silly mistakes because she's just rushing to get it done. She plays two instruments, and could be good at one of them if she tried harder: she does just enough practice to keep me from cancelling the lessons. I'm sick of the sound of my own voice telling her that it's her choice whether or not to play an instrument but if she chooses to play, she has to practice.
Lockdown made it much worse, before that we could get her interested in cooking or doing things around the house, but now she just says she'd like to do X "but not now". She doesn't seem to think ahead at all so it's hard to devise any incentives that work.
I'm tired. I've had a rough ride through lockdown, my job is safe but I'm managing a team that has been very busy and stressed. No-one except DH gives a damn about me, and he's also struggling with DD. I desperately wish I hadn't had DD: at the moment I look forward to the weekends, and they disappear in a series of fights, so I get to Sunday evening wishing I'd just stayed at work. I'll be honest, I don't like her any more. She's arrogant and rude to DH and me, and unless something changes radically she's going to be an adult who contributes nothing worthwhile to the world. I can't see how we're going to survive the teenage years if it gets worse than this.
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Wishing I weren't a parent: what works for a completely unmotivated child?
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JKRowlingSuperfan · 27/09/2020 19:10
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