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Raclou14 Thu 24-Sep-20 22:34:53

my daughter is 6, 7 in 4 months time and she is by far the tallest in her class I would say she's about the size of a 10 year old. I am tall about 5'10 and her dad is about 6'3 so she was always bound to be tall but im worried shes going to be bullied about being so tall at such a young age. She has already started to get comments of other children and even adults comment on how tall she is. Shes started getting paranoid over it but i always tell her its best being tall and try and make her feel better. Anyone else been through similar?
Thanks 😊

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Lockdownseperation Fri 25-Sep-20 10:18:26

You should be able to plot her height in her red book and if he is under the 100% it’s fine.

What size clothes is she in? My 4 year old is in aged 6 to 7 clothes and 7 to 8 in leggings and she is on the 90% for height and weight.

Raclou14 Fri 25-Sep-20 10:57:42

Thank you,
I'm not sure i have the red book anymore. My daughter wears 11-12 in most clothes but I seem to be the only one concerned

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BiBabbles Fri 25-Sep-20 11:09:08

My DS1 was like that. He was taller than most of his instructors by the time he was 13-14. He got the comments, no bullying, but I get why that's a concern.

He did have some kids who liked to make up wild stories of fighting him or him punching them (at places he couldn't have been) to either sound impressive or as an excuse to their parents. My spouse went through similar. It seems some kids find it fun to make fanciful stories about taking on the bigger kid. I was far more annoyed with the adults who refused to see evidence to the contrary of their kids story and would rebuttal with 'but he's so tall', as if that has any impact on his character.

inappropriateraspberry Fri 25-Sep-20 11:26:37

You might find her growing slows down soon and her classmates will catch up. Someone's got to be the tallest and the shortest!
Is she worried about it? If not, I really wouldn't worry.
I was always the smallest in class, but eventually caught them up! I think it usually evens out eventually, some just grow faster than others!

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Fri 25-Sep-20 11:28:55

How tall is she? My own dd is very tall for her age, which she wholly gets from her dad as I'm tiny.

Check her book for her height at 2yo - apparently this is exactly half of her adult height.

stackhead Fri 25-Sep-20 11:29:47

I was always the tallest and like you am 5"10. I stopped growing at 13, my parents had a height chart at home and I'm genuinely the same height I was at 13.

Some kids just get all their growing done early.

Aroundtheworldin80moves Fri 25-Sep-20 11:30:40

How tall is she?
My 9yo is tall- but as one of the youngest in her year, it's not as noticeable (very visible against year below, even those a few weeks younger). It gives her an advantage in netball. However, she is in 11-12 leggings...
A friend at her school before we moved was quite a bit taller than her (6 months older, probably about 20cm taller, about 1.5m at 8yo) was seeing a doctor in case of early puberty.

BertieBotts Fri 25-Sep-20 11:32:05

"If it's under 100% it's OK" - huh? What is OP supposed to do if her DD is "too tall" - get her to take up smoking?

You can find the growth charts here, not that it makes that much difference smile Height is not really externally influenced by much, it is genetic.

www.rcpch.ac.uk/resources/uk-who-growth-charts-2-18-years

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Fri 25-Sep-20 11:33:33

"If it's under 100% it's OK" - huh? What is OP supposed to do if her DD is "too tall" - get her to take up smoking?

Well if she is over 100% line then it may be worth seeing a GP so they can assess.

Lockdownseperation Fri 25-Sep-20 11:35:23

BertieBotts

"If it's under 100% it's OK" - huh? What is OP supposed to do if her DD is "too tall" - get her to take up smoking?

You can find the growth charts here, not that it makes that much difference smile Height is not really externally influenced by much, it is genetic.

www.rcpch.ac.uk/resources/uk-who-growth-charts-2-18-years

She may have a health issue and would need to speak to a GP.

BigSandyBalls2015 Fri 25-Sep-20 11:35:45

The tallest girl at primary school with my DDs is now a very average height (late teens).

Lockdownseperation Fri 25-Sep-20 11:36:30

@Raclou14 if you want to share her height either on here or by DM then I can check in my red book for you.

Persipan Fri 25-Sep-20 11:38:04

There are growth charts here you can use if you no longer have her red book:
www.rcpch.ac.uk/resources/uk-who-growth-charts-2-18-years

BertieBotts Fri 25-Sep-20 11:40:06

Ah OK - good point - I thought you were talking about it as though it was weight and could be influenced by diet!

CalmDown7 Sat 26-Sep-20 10:18:50

Yes I could have wrote this post! My 7 year old is tallest in her class and even gets comments about how she looks like an older kid.

Bus driver didn’t believe she was under 5 when she was and soft play workers would ask her age if she was playing in the under 5s when she was 4 years old.

So it’s not been easy but I tell her how lucky she is and that many kids would swap with her any day.

I tell her she doesn’t need to use a stool to reach things and doesn’t need as much help to reach things.

I tell her she’s beautiful. I was the same when I was a kid and also tall but eventually it will come to a point where you’re an adult and a decent height. I reassure her she won’t keep growing forever lol x

Raclou14 Sat 26-Sep-20 11:25:07

CalmDown7

Yes I could have wrote this post! My 7 year old is tallest in her class and even gets comments about how she looks like an older kid.

Bus driver didn’t believe she was under 5 when she was and soft play workers would ask her age if she was playing in the under 5s when she was 4 years old.

So it’s not been easy but I tell her how lucky she is and that many kids would swap with her any day.

I tell her she doesn’t need to use a stool to reach things and doesn’t need as much help to reach things.

I tell her she’s beautiful. I was the same when I was a kid and also tall but eventually it will come to a point where you’re an adult and a decent height. I reassure her she won’t keep growing forever lol x

Thank you for your comment its made me worry less. X

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CalmDown7 Sat 26-Sep-20 12:36:29

@Raclou14 - I’m glad it did, pls don’t worry. I always tell my daughter she’s lucky, this makes her feel better and less self conscious. To be honest some kids sprout up sooner but it will come to a halt and they’ll be a normal height as adults x

PlateTectonics Sat 26-Sep-20 12:43:58

I have a DD who was the tallest in her class at primary school. She's now in year 8 and is 5'8".

We celebrate it and talk about her 'lovely long legs'. She likes being tall.

Also, if she's sporty, try to steer her away from gymnastics (harder for tall girls) and towards sports for which it's an advantage to be tall. My DD is a good swimmer and great at netball.

Emeeno1 Sat 26-Sep-20 12:44:27

Your daughter is fine, she is taking after her mum and dad.

The best gift you can ever give her is to accept herself and this is a great starting point.

RHOBHfan Sat 26-Sep-20 12:53:54

I was the tallest kid in my class. I’m now 6ft1.

My family always told me I was beautiful, but I’ll be honest, I hate it. I feel very unfeminine and self conscious, I hated school (was 5ft11 at 15), don’t wear heels, struggle to get clothes to fit well.... yes a lot of shops do tall ranges but many that used to stock on the high street have gone online only, and the ranges are limited.

When I was 15 (nearly full height), I visited the GP for something who asked how tall I was. I recall telling him and saying ‘I hate it’ and he said if that was the case, they could X-ray my knees, see how much growth was left and if it was a lot there were options like pins, to stop it. I have no idea whether he was serious (at that point, I was so tall, there seemed no point exploring anything invasive), but if I’d been younger I’d have asked my parents to seriously research/consider it.

Probably not what you want to hear OP, and I appreciate a lot of the issues are mine... but just another POV.

alongtimeagoandfaraway Sat 26-Sep-20 13:07:38

50 years ago my mum saw me next to a petite classmate. We were both about 7.
She decided to go to the doctor to make an appointment as she was worried I was too tall. On her way, she met my classmate’s mother on a similar errand - worried that her daughter was too small.
I’ve been 5’10” since I was 13. The other girl is still petite. Both absolutely normal, healthy women.
The best thing my mum did for me was to encourage me always to stand tall and be confident in my height. It has helped me greatly throughout my life.

Raclou14 Sat 26-Sep-20 13:24:02

Thank you all so much for the positive comments x

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