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People taking photos of your kids

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Figurer1 · 19/09/2020 23:31

I recently was out with DS (

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BananaPop2020 · 19/09/2020 23:33

Why didn’t you say something at the time?

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Letsallscreamatthesistene · 20/09/2020 04:30

What actually happened?

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RepeatSwan · 20/09/2020 04:43

I think it is hard to say things at the time but we got into the way of just saying no.

You can contact the relative and politely say please don't circulate the pictures orpost online.

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joystir59 · 20/09/2020 05:04

Stand up for your children and say no in future.

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SelkieQualia · 20/09/2020 05:21

They should ask before taking photos of someone else's child, but it's hard to know what MIL told them. With regard to the editing, it's normal to post processing these days - usually to get skin tones correct, as the camera doesn't work the same way the same way your eye does. It takes a while to get the hang of post processing, and early attempts can look odd. I suspect relative is an enthusiastic amateur, and MIL may have asked her for some photos? I don't think it's unreasonable for MIL to want photos of her and DGS, but they didn't handle it very well.

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redcarbluecar · 20/09/2020 05:21

I think there are people for whom life is a constant photography session. Your scenario is maybe not one to overthink, but it is a bit odd. I’d always ask before taking pics of people’s kids.

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InfiniteSheldon · 20/09/2020 05:48

So a grandmother took photos of her grandchild? Once she's taken one say A that's enough now or B I'm a selfish fuck I resent you stay away from my baby he's not yours. That should get rid of her.

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Figurer1 · 20/09/2020 06:36

Thanks for your comments. Helpful to see what others think. Totally happy for MIL to have photos with DGS and in fact I obviously take photos of them together. It’s more the way it was handled. And fact i have met MIL’s relative 2x in 10 years or something so don’t really know her for her to be treating my child like a zoo animal.

As a side note, have people completely lost the ability to just “be” in a moment? Do we have to obsessively capture it always?

@infinitesheldon, thanks I like your advice. Sometimes we all deserve to be selfish fucks.

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northstars · 20/09/2020 08:16

YANBU at all. Work on saying no in the future.

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SelkieQualia · 20/09/2020 09:28

I suspect that your relative was focusing on doing something nice for your MIL. Twenty minutes is not a long photography session for someone who's keen on photography.

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