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Jackie1983 Thu 10-Sep-20 21:02:22

I have a friend of several years who has two daughters (aged 4 and 7). I also have a toddler daughter aged 2. She’s met my daughter a total of 3 times (our friendship has waned with time) and she made a comment that my very active daughter reminded her of a family member who indulged in drugs as a teen — saying that that family member had so much energy and needed to use substances as an outlet - as a warning to keep my kid constantly preoccupied...I was shocked by this advice and comparison - I didn’t really address it with her because it would cause conflict. But aren’t all toddlers running around and active? They are exploring everything around them and learning to process emotions. She’s never had any complaints from nannies or nursery (she’s been going since 4 months). Nannies/teachers who see her daily love her and call her smart and a ray of light. A little shocked and I don’t know how to interpret what my friend said and feel I think less of our friendship and think she’s somewhat being competitive about her girls and mine. I just feel after that comment to give the friendship some distance. How would you mums react?

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Lockdownseperation Thu 10-Sep-20 21:11:21

If it was just one comment I would just think that’s a bit out odd and ignore it.

Letsallscreamatthesistene Thu 10-Sep-20 21:13:00

I think you're over reacting a little

crazychemist Thu 10-Sep-20 21:15:06

Sounds like a really odd thing to say! In the absence of any comment from anyone else, I’d totally ignore it.

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