I need some advice re my 7 year old DD. Her behaviour has always been extremely cheeky/defiant at home with me but impeccable at school and with others.
I have been doing some reading online and suspect maybe ADD may be at play.
She is an anxious child (I suffer from Generalised anxiety disorder and I think some of my anxiety as rubbed of on her.) And will be getting a but if extra support at school this year to help her deal with this.
Her behaviour I'm struggling with consists of :-
-Throwing tantrums of she doesnt get her own way.
- Threats and blackmail ("do you want me to smash the tv?") If she doesnt get her own way.
- Has to have the last word and answers back constantly. Even if I walk away from an "argument" with her she will follow me about still shouting at me and trying to continue the arguement. Will argue the sky is green if I say its blue!
- She wont sleep. It can be midnight most nights before she falls asleep and then its only with me in with her.
- She wont eat meals. Refuses to eat most things and has a very bland diet. Will really only eat rubbish.
- Going on and on and on whinging and moaning to try and bully into getting her own way.
- Doesnt listen to what I ask her. Eg "Can you please but your toys away again please" is met with a "no" or ignored completely.
- Very bossy. Expects everyone to do as she wants and when. Even acts like this in the park when playing with friends. Interups conversations constantly and gets annoyed if shes asked to wait.
-Hates getting things "wrong". Kicks off if she draws something she sees as wrong etc.
- Has no attention span. She cant even sit at the table for dinner for more than 2 mins before shes up and dancing or messing about. Wont sit and do anything for more than a couple of minutes the moves straight onto something else.
I have tried everything I have seen online. She doesn't care. Consequences just go over her head. Take away privileges and she openly says she doesnt care. Reward charts (loads of different ones) and she doesn't care.
All this behaviour is usually reserved for at home but recently shes now being rude to other family members. I'm embarrassed that others are seeing this behaviour now. I've really been trying my best but it's obviously not good enough. I worry that she will start acting like this at school who think shes lovely (if not a bit shy and anxious). School wont refer us to anybody because they say her behaviour is brilliant.
I'm so worried that if i dont get this sorted now that her behaviour will get worse. Shes also a very loving and clever little girl who I adore and love with all my heart. I dont want her behaviour in the next few years to jeopardise her future.
Has anybody had the same issues and found ways that work in changing this behaviour? I'm getting desperate for some help. Thanks