My little girl is 6 months old and ive never had anyone babysit her as I dont work. I'm at the point where ill leave her with my nan and grandad for a break when I'm staying over, ill go upstairs to relax until she needs breastfeeding. A proper break would be nice but the stress of haveing her in a different house would completely ruin the alone time anyway, she's also EBF and will only sleep when nursing. She won't take from bottles but drinks lots of milk during the day.
My partners family are big on babysitting, the nans always have the kids when the mums go to work. My mil expected to have that and to babysit my little one alot despite me not working. at the beginning she would always make comments like "you can go for a meal and ill look after her for a bit". When I was pregnant she wanted to book a table at a restraunt for months ahead so she could have the baby, she even went to book a cottage for her and her husband, me and my partner and our baby (she would of been 2 months) but then cancelled it when I said no. I've had the, give her a bottle and formula so others can have her talk, put her in her own room so she is less dependant on me talk.
She's started to realise that Im not jumping at the idea so hasnt brought it up for a good 2 months, but her sisters have started asking me weather I've left her with anyone, that its nice to get space and insinuating that I should start leaving her with the mil. I was asked infront of the mil if i have left her with anyone yet and I said no. I was the asked "even to go out to the shops?" And I said nah I'd just take her with me then they all looked at each other disappointingly. I'm feeling like I'm being looked at as possessive and a bit selfish with the little one.
I understand she just wants to spend time her grandchild but i take her round every weekend, sometimes on both days for atleast 2 hours and sometimws more. During the week she sees her for about 30mins after work. I dont feel the need to have a babysitter but there's this part of me that feels guilty which I just can't shake. Its like she had all these expectations of what being a nan would be, and its been the complete opposite to what those around her have had.
This is my first kid and tbh im not sure if its selfish or not, I feel like it isn't but then I feel guilty too.
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Is it selfish to not want babysitters?
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alesha123445 · 22/08/2020 19:32
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