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The lockdown baby family forgot(10 Posts)
I had my little girl a few days before lockdown, more than half of my family still haven't met her yet, we are not shielding and have welcomed visitors, everyone in my family are going about their life normally and I feel like we have been totally forgotten about, there was a family day out to the park and we weren't invited, anyone else feel like this? Grans/papas ect have been visiting/inviting us places and we've been going over regular
Sorry you feel forgotten and that your daughter isn’t treasured by your family.
You said that you’ve been going over regularly to visit the grandparents but didn’t get invited to a family day out? Was this arranged by siblings not parents?
That is so sad. Any chance they think you are shielding?
@ItStartedWithAKiss241 no my oldest sibling is 12 my mum had me young so I'm the oldest, it's mainly cousins and aunts and uncles, I have a really big close family but just feel like everyone has forgotten about us, the day out was aunts and there kids and my mum and younger siblings
@ColdCottage no not at all I've invited them over or to let me know when they are free to make plans
Very strange. Leave them to it - there loss. Focus on the friends that love you instead. Love is more important than blood.
Oh op I'm so sorry you feel your little girl has been forgotten. My little one was born the day lockdown was announced and I totally understand the feeling of forgotten.
We had to encourage people to have a bloody zoom call to meet her and since so many people have not been in touch despite our efforts. When we said we were.visiting the town of a significant never of family members around 3 hours from our own home next Thursday and therefore anyone that would like to catch up and meet her properly we would love to see we were told things like “we’ve got a few things on so we will need to play it by ear” and “our eldest is getting his results so will see how he feels”
Whilst I appreciate our babies are not the centre of everyone’s universe I do share your pain - it is like lockdown has robbed us of the “normal” rush of excitement people would have had for our babies and now the moment has passed.
My advice (or at least what’s worked for me!) would be to dial up the time and effort with the ones who clearly care and are excited and move on from those who don’t - I’m not going to be breaking my neck forcing people to be excited about my baby and if they can’t see how incredible she is and want to make a tiny effort then it’s them missing out in my book!
Thats so sad. I was going to say maybe they're worried that you don't want them there because you're shielding but if you've invited them round I can't see why they wouldn't come and see your baby even just for 10mins!
I would love to visit a new baby in the family!
Do you think they are just worried about being near a baby with everything going on?
My son was born on March 19th, my family haven't bothered to see him at all, not even sent a card... Family have even driven past our road to go to a local park for a day out but not said anything to us... I completely feel your pain 💐
I feel your pain but for me it's my friends who have done this, not my family. It's like he doesn't exist, born 3 days before lockdown and it's like everyone's life paused however mine has changed quite dramatically and it was never really acknowledged. Sad behaviour, I can't quite believe people sometimes. Maybe I'm too much of a people pleaser and would never dream of doing that to others.
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