Just a little advice please...?

[LighteningMcqueen2020]

To all those NC with a Narcissistic parent how do you deal with social media? Do you allow them to see that you’re living your own life or is this just supplying them with info that can be used against you.

Don’t want to get into the in’s and out’s (long term poster - name changed) but narc parent saying my children will hate me just like I hate them (I’m evil, even the family dog knew what I was growing up) - so in theory waiting for the day my children turn against me.

Do I get rid of social media? What do I do about every other family member in contact with us both? I’ve had a family member ring today asking why I don’t speak to them. I don’t want to explain as I don’t want to play the victim and get into petty he said, she said.

I just want to live my own life with my beautiful husband and children so explain to people that I’m just enjoying life with my own family and am too busy.

Is it the case that if you have these family dynamics you should really stay off social media?

[GrannyBags]

Is the parent on your sm?

[LighteningMcqueen2020]

Yep. I feel that as they are not in contact with my DC directly only spectating our lives on social media, no damage can be done. Am I going about this all the wrong way?

[GrannyBags]

I’d remove them completely

[grey12]

Are you posting on social media just for your family to keep up to date? Facebook or whatsapp? Tbh I don't post anything on Facebook. Whatsapp you can control better what content each family member sees.

Removing your parent totally from SM is a big move. Is that what you want to do?Are you ready for that? Anyways you should try to find a way to have some control over that situation so it affects your life less

for support

[OhioOhioOhio]

I don't do social media except for this. Nothing with photos.

[TigerQuoll]

Create a private group and only add the people to it you want to share updates and photos of your children with. Don't post anything in public except for generic sharing of interesting news articles, memes, etc. Save family and children related updates for that group. Then you don't have to unfriend them but you are in total control of who sees your information. Not at the mercy of Facebooks algorithms.

[TigerQuoll]

Another useful thing about a group like that is members of it can add photos when they're taking your children out or if you're all together they can add photos of you and the children. So an easy way to collect more photos than you could otherwise.

If you do this I would go through your previous Facebook history and limit all posts about your family to the limited list you want to show them to. Or, download the photos and delete the posts altogether.