Does anyone else feel this way??

[Tilly82]

Hi, I’m basically wondering if anyone else is also having frequent thoughts on regretting having children knowing what you know now but didnt pre kids? Dont get me wrong I love my kids more than anything and would do anything for them (almost!) and I could not ‘take them back’. But i do wonder if its normal to be having such thoughts...I did have PND both times and really struggled with very little support which didnt help. I also suffer with feelings of insecurity about how Im doing as a parent and find I compare myself all the time against other parents, i know this doesnt help. Also, I worry so much about them and their future that it actually takes away my enjoyment of being their mum and I find it hard to ‘enjoy’ them because of these anxieties. Anything can pop into my head and i stress out, I worry about who they’ll meet, am i doing enough with them?!...what if they turn out wrong and its all my fault??!! The list goes on! Please tell me im not crazy 😂🙈

[BluebellsGreenbells]

Yep.

I think you mourn your single life

I don’t think you ever stop worrying.

[Tilly82]

I just feel that Im worrying excessively! It doesnt help with whats been going on in the world lately

[Straysocks]

Can you talk to anyone about it? A professional? I think those kind of thoughts could rob you of so much. It's great you can see it, maybe you're ready to address it? Clearly you care so much.

[Tilly82]

thanks, yes i did see my gp but was a while ago and tbh the old feelings come creeping back after a time, I just wanted to know if anyone else feels that its just constant worry (with some good bits thrown in!)