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Asked MIL to not kiss my babies lips after I saw her do it, I came in after 2 minutes and she had slobber round her mouth? Am I right to annoyed

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alesha123445 Fri 17-Jul-20 17:36:19

I saw my MIL kiss my 4 month old on the lips, I've asked her not to do it again. I dont moan about much, all I ask is no lip kissing, respect her meal plan and dont smoke near her. Her family do lip kissing, i find it weird but thats because i was never brought up with that.. its only been the cheek kusses and hugs. She kissed my baby once infront of me since i asked her not to, she quickly said sorry and that she forgot. She has never done it since. I always got the vibe that she would do it if i left the room, i left for about 1 min to go the toilet.. not to test her but I just needed to go I came back and she was holding my little girl facing her and the MIL had slobber all round her mouth and was trying to wipe it away. My baby us teething and very snobbery.. I never saw it but I really feel like she did and I'm pretty angry? I feel like if she can't respect that rule what else wouldn't she respect? I feel like she's wrongfully touched my baby, i know she doesn't see lip kissing like that but I do and I'm angry? Do you think I'm over reacting.

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Wecandothis99 Fri 17-Jul-20 17:37:41

You're being a bit weird unless it's because of Covid. I can't stand my MIL but she can (Covid aside) kiss her grandchild wherever the heck she likes

alesha123445 Fri 17-Jul-20 17:37:55

Sorry for the typos I'm trying to rock my little one to sleep 😅

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OverTheRainbow88 Fri 17-Jul-20 17:38:07

I would hate that, even before corona virus.
I don’t want anyone kissing my children on their lips. Cold sores are very dangerous for children and babies and with the whole Covid thing id be livid

Letshavesometea Fri 17-Jul-20 17:38:27

Yes I do think you're overreacting.

However, its your baby and if you ask her not to do something, she should respect that.

alesha123445 Fri 17-Jul-20 17:40:54

Ofcourse I let her nan kiss her grand daughter, i just don't like it on the lips is all. The way you spoke was like I said she couldn't kiss her at all? I let all the family kiss her..

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Lockdownseperation Fri 17-Jul-20 17:42:20

Your not over reacting at all.

I’m a bit confused by meal plans for a month old? Why would MIL need to know about this?

alesha123445 Fri 17-Jul-20 17:45:04

Because my family and partners family believe in giving babies food from early on and ive said no food till she's 6 months, and when she is on food and if i ever leave my baby with them to respect her meal plans xxx

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Ginqueen456 Fri 17-Jul-20 18:01:16

I'm with you on this, a family member of mines 1st baby died as someone kissed him on the mouth whist they had a coldsore!

Raimona Fri 17-Jul-20 18:05:27

Mouth kissing is gross. Imo if it’s normalised within the family then the child is at higher risk of kissing someone else such as a friend on the lips, because they think it’s ok. I’d be furious with MIL and she wouldn’t be left unsupervised with my baby again.

Eggcellent29 Fri 17-Jul-20 18:19:10

Whatever you decide for your baby, unless dangerous, should be respected by your MIL

I would tell her that if she can’t stop herself from kissing baby on the lips, she won’t be allowed close enough to do so. BUT I wouldn’t do this unless I saw her doing it - she may not have done it this time like you say, you can’t be sure

Lockdownseperation Fri 17-Jul-20 18:36:51

Okay that makes sense.

DameHannahRelf Fri 17-Jul-20 18:54:03

Yanbu!

Sunnydayshereatlast Fri 17-Jul-20 18:58:37

Mil once took my dd into the kitchen and I found her trying to ram cold mash into her mouth..
Told her straight if she couldn't follow my wishes she would not have dc alone.
She knew from previous dc 6 months was the guideline now.
Her ndn apparently (in her day) raised a very prem baby on Carnation milk...
confused

OverTheRainbow88 Sat 18-Jul-20 06:19:47

Almost glad mine loves abroad after reading these!!

MsSquiz Sat 18-Jul-20 06:23:43

No one needs to kiss a baby on the lips!
My 7 month old with dive towards my face, mouth wide open for a wet slobbery "kiss" and I move away and kiss her head or cheek.

You have asked her not to do it, she has now done it twice, consequence for me would be her not being left alone with baby as she can't stick to a simple rule

Crackerofdoom Sat 18-Jul-20 06:29:47

I have never kissed my kids on the mouth. It is a personal thing but I find it weird.

Always reminds me of this scene in Bill and Ted

youtu.be/Kq5WPkLCAiY

Lockdownseperation Sat 18-Jul-20 08:54:39

MsSquiz

No one needs to kiss a baby on the lips!
My 7 month old with dive towards my face, mouth wide open for a wet slobbery "kiss" and I move away and kiss her head or cheek.

You have asked her not to do it, she has now done it twice, consequence for me would be her not being left alone with baby as she can't stick to a simple rule

It hugely beneficial for a breast feeding Mum to kiss her own baby on the lips. She will transfer pathogens to which she has the antibodies, the pathogens will be detected by her breasts and she will produce antibodies to those pathogens in her breast milk. A breast feeding mum without a cold sore, can improve her babies immune system this way.

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