We have a little problem with ds1 (5, just gone into yr 1). He likes to play with a gang of yr 2 boys at breaktime. However recently the ringleader of this gang (who appears to set all the rules) has been telling him he can't play with them. Ds1 has been getting very angry and hitting this boy. WHen it first started (his mum tipped me off taht they were getting into fights), I had a chat with ds1, stressed that even though he was angry it was not ok to hit people, and talked through some alternative strategies - and he devised a plan, which was to keep away from the gang for a while and play with some other friends. Then he would try and approach them again and find out what he needed to do to be allowed to play. Well, seemed to be going ok but then he tried again to play with the gang, and to cut a long story short ended up in thumping match with ringleader.
Any ideas what I should do to help him cope with this situation and not become violent when he is angry? And how to help him be more successful in forming friendships and fitting in with a group?
Sorry this is so long....triggers all sorts of sensitivities in me so worried I am not going to deal with it in a helpful way.
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How do you deal with it when your child is being left out in the playground? And is behaving badly as a result?
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elliott · 27/09/2007 18:05
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