Hi all,
I am 6/7 weeks pregnant which came as a total shock as unplanned. We have two lovely girls already (4 and 2) and we were done with two and just starting to see light in the tunnel with them playing together nicely etc. I just can’t see myself with three children and I just can’t see how I would cope with three kids with both our jobs being fairly demanding (albeit I am on furlough atm). I know many say that going from
2 to 3 is easier than 1 to 2 but I’m less worried about the baby stage and more worried about later on (three lots of homework etc etc). I have had a consultation with Marie Stopes and the home abortion pills are now sitting in my kitchen but I am swinging drastically between wanting to terminate and keep things as they are now or possibly keeping it but that fills me with worry about how we would cope and ever find time for each other. All the logical reasons point towards not keeping the baby but obviously it is not that simple! Another major factor is that we don’t have any family/support really close by - my parents are the closest at c 1.5 hrs drive away but are not really that willing to look after the girls / help out as it is, let alone if another was thrown into the mix.
I guess I have a few questions to throw out there:
- has anyone had a termination in a similar situation and how did you feel after?
- are there any mums of three out there without any family nearby and working full time? How do you cope?
Thanks in advance and sorry for rambling - hope this makes some sense!