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Concerns about DD going on holiday with XH's new partner

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PIPERHELLO Tue 30-Jun-20 12:22:58

Hi all, please be gentle in your responses as I am very stressed about this, as you can imagine...
My DD is going on a one-week holiday in August with my XH, his new partner and their new baby, plus another of her children from a previous relationship.
My concerns are around his new partner, who has an incident in her history with social services. As you can imagine, I am very worried. Understatement.
I have met her and she seems quite vulnerable and has clearly had a tough life, but I have nightmares about her pushing my DD off a cliff (I know, I sound bonkers) and it is starting to really stress me. I don't think XH knows about social services history (I found out not through very respectable means), and after much deliberation, I decided not to tell XH as l don't think he would believe me and I would just look vindictive.
I feel like I can't do what I naturally want to do as a mother to protect my child. She is 6. I don't want her to go, but I cannot stop it, I know this.
Please be kind in your replies and please try and give me practical, positive advice as I feel very stressed about this. Don't comment please if you are going to be unhelpful, as I really don't think I can deal with that right now.

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Persipan Tue 30-Jun-20 15:09:18

When you say an incident with social services, what kind of thing are we talking about?

Redred2429 Tue 30-Jun-20 15:10:41

It would depend on what the incident was with social services

Sunnydayshereatlast Tue 30-Jun-20 15:12:17

Unless she has moved areas then ss will know she has a new baby and be 'on the ball'..
Have you considered ringing ss for advice if you have concerns? Presumably you know details of the past incident?

LuluBellaBlue Tue 30-Jun-20 15:13:03

Yes need to know what her previous dealings with SS was to know how realistic your feelings are

Honeyroar Tue 30-Jun-20 15:20:41

Is the as incident something like pushing a child off a cliff? Or have you just built things up in your head? Do you trust your ex? Is he a good dad? He’s going to be on this holiday too, it’s not like he’s leaving your daughter alone with her. From your post I think you’re over worrying.

Jazzled Tue 30-Jun-20 15:27:17

How did you find out?

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