Help, baby silent puking

[ellieellie44]

Hi, my baby was born 3 days ago, I cannot leave him alone or stop looking at him, he silently pukes. He shows no sign of him going to Puke, makes no noise. I haven't slept yet as I constantly watch him. I'm so scared. Even putting him on his side doesnt put me at ease. Does anyone know how to make it better, or encourage him to show signs of puking, or even things to do to ease my anxiety, such as better ways to put him to sleep? I put him on his side but I still stare at him all night, how long will this last? Thanks in advance, worried ftm

[SaulGoodmanIsTaken]

hey, couldn’t read and run, congratulations on your new baby - are you at home or in hospital? Your delivery may have an influence : C-section babies tend to have more fluid to expel because they didn’t get squeezed through the birth canal.

[SaulGoodmanIsTaken]

I asked the midwives and health visitors about similar sounding things when mine were little and they were very reassuring, the current NHS guidance is to “place your baby in the "feet to foot" position, with their feet at the end of the cot or moses basket.”

[SeaToSki]

How much volume is coming up? Is it milky or mucusy? Is he feeding well ? Does he have frequent wet /poo nappies?

I would suggest you call your health worker to start with and if you dont get help there, then maybe your GP. Not being able to sleep for worry means that something is wrong, either the baby needs to be seen, or you need a little help to manage your expectations of what is normal.

I hope you get some sleep tonight and that the baby does better

[Wheresthebiffer2]

Are you living with someone else, who could watch the baby for a while and let you get some sleep?

[Z0rr0]

Reflux is not uncommon. Small babies often bring up a small amount after a feed and it's nothing to worry about.
If it's constant tho a small baby will dehydrate quickly.
More info?

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

Are you worried about you baby choking on his vomit?

[ellieellie44]

Hi all, I've spoke to midwife and she said it's normal and that he will spit it out, but I'm honestly so so worried and keep thinking something bad is going to happen to him, I'm so worried about SIDS or if he chokes and I don't hear him- I'm a ftm and I know for a fact that I'm a heavy sleeper especially because my mum has been helping out and I've set alarms for feeds sometimes and because I'm so tired I literally just sit up turn the alarm off and roll back over so I'm worried I wouldn't hear him throw up,I'm so anxious about every little thing and every noise he makes I'm leaping to his cot to check him. I'm worried about him choking on his vomit as when I've watched him a couple of times when I know he's vomited he doesn't seem to even try and get it out, some runs out the side and the rest just stays in until he's picked up and he then lets it drip out of his mouth. I'm so tired as I'm watching him as much and as often as I can. I'm a young single mum I'm only 16 so I live with my parents and they're helping as much as they can as I'm sleeping downstairs with either my mum or dad each night but I still can't help but not sleep properly and sit up as well as I feel like they may fall sleep and not hear him either

[Z0rr0]

People in general do not choke on their vomit. Naturally we turn our heads even if we vomit in our sleep. Only paralytic people choke on their vomit. There is a small risk of aspirating vomit but babies are different. Unlike us they can feed and breathe at the same time. Your midwife has said your baby is fine. Please try to take it easy on yourself. You are very young. You don't need to respond to every snuffle and whimper. If you wake when your baby cries that will probably be enough. SIDS is very rare. Your level of fear makes me wonder if there is something else going on. Being a first time mum is overwhelming at the best of times but doing it so young and without a partner I can't imagine how hard that is. Your hormones are all over the place, your world has been turned upside down, you're exhausted. This is not a recipe for rational thought. Please try to take it easy on yourself. Healthy babies are robust and if your midwife isn't worried then you probably don't need to stress too much. Get rest when your folks take the baby. Sleep is a wonderful thing. If you can take yourself out for a walk or see a friend for an hour on your own and try to not think about the baby the whole time. If you continue to stress at the level you are now have another chat with your midwife and see about getting assessed for post natal depression. The level of concern you have seems greater than the risk based on the evidence you've shared, so that would suggest you might need a bit of extra help emotionally. Take care. You can't be there for your baby if you're not in the right headspace yourself.

[mortforya]

Completely normal op. It's not Puke, its just the baby spewing up milk. Every baby lies in their crib and has milk spew spill out of the mouth down their face. Their heads will turn to the side naturally. No baby has ever died from their own spew and every baby spews.

[Persipan]

I'm pretty sure from what you're describing, and the midwife's reaction, that he isn't vomiting. Babies do occasionally vomit, for instance when they're ill, but what they do quite frequently is 'posset' or 'spit up' a bit of milk. It's just to do with their new digestive systems; sometimes the milk doesn't all make it down and stay down. It's very normal, and if baby isn't distressed by it, then the only problem you have here is a laundry problem. Your baby isn't going to choke on it.

It sounds as though you're becoming very anxious at the moment, though. Hyper-vigilance to every little thing from a newborn can really need with your head - it definitely made my sleep awful for a while! - and I'd really recommend you talk to a midwife or health visitor about how you've been feeling. You might benefit from a bit of mental health support right now - lots of mums do at this time.

Best of luck! You sound like a lovely mum and you're doing a great job.

[Persipan]

(That was supposed to say mess with your head!)

[INeedNewShoes]

How soon after a feed are you lying the baby down?

A bit more upright time and a bit more time winding the baby before putting him down might help.

Unless the amount of liquid coming out is a lot this sounds like normal posseting. Most babies bring little bits of milk back up. My DD certainly did.

The silent thing is normal. They don’t retch or splutter like older children do.

[Iwanttobeinthesunshine]

I came across this the other night in a worried 3am google - thought it might be handy for you too as it explains how it’s still safest for baby to sleep on their back as it protects against SIDS
rednose.org.au/article/will-baby-choke-if-he-she-vomits-while-sleeping-on-the-back