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Amethystmoons Tue 16-Jun-20 08:58:41

Hi all quick message
My ex and I have been through mediation twice regarding DD.
Current arrangement is he has her every other weekend. As we both agreed in mediation.
This weekend isn’t his actual weekend to have her but I text him two weeks ago to say he can of course have her Sunday with it being Father’s Day. He asked if he could pick her up two hours earlier than normal which I agreed to. For background he’s very emotionally abusive and projects on to me all the time, it’s been hell.
So he’s asked if she can stay Saturday night this weekend because it’s a special weekend and I said no because I’m on a training course all week mim - fri and he had her Saturday Sunday just gone and he’s having her this Sunday so I’d like the full day with her which is my Day anyway.
So I’ve been hit with a torrent of abuse this morning saying I’m exhausting to deal with, unreasonable and ‘heaven forbid he should ask for a night with his daughter before fathers day’.
What would you have done in my shoes?

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Amethystmoons Tue 16-Jun-20 09:01:06

He also said the mediation agreement is all based around what works for me etc and this is upsetting because we both agreed together and made the plan together in mediation so I feel it’s unfair to say this now to guilt trip me

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Amethystmoons Tue 16-Jun-20 10:13:16

Bump

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LoisLittsLover Tue 16-Jun-20 10:17:46

I'd let him so that he has the full day Sunday with her. Would you be okay with having her later in the day on mother's day

Amethystmoons Tue 16-Jun-20 10:28:49

It’s not later in the day he’s picking her up at 8:30am on fathers day

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LoisLittsLover Tue 16-Jun-20 12:12:10

I'd still let her go for the night. For me the special days are often the most special first thing in the morning eg waking up on birthdays, Christmas, mother's day etc, so think it's nice for him to have that.

Amethystmoons Tue 16-Jun-20 12:45:56

Thank you for your opinion. For me I can’t always tell The best thing because he can be quite over bearing and the sort of give an inch take a mile type of person. In this instance I needed some outside input. I have messaged him to say he can have her

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