cot training plz help

[stumor87]

Currently goin through the NIGHTMARE of tryin to get our wee man (9.5months) to sleep in his cot in his room at night. We are on night 3 and are trying to do the cry it out method, were u put him down awake (after fed and bedtime routine)..he cries (screams) you wait it out 10 mins, go bk, hes stood in his cot, reassure him put him down, soothe for 1-2 mins then leave his room for another 10 mins and go through this process addin a few mins with the hope that he learns to soothe himself and goes to sleep. NO..after 2 night of goin through this for an hour each time to the point were hes loosing his voice crying so hard, weve only been able to soothe him to sleep ourselves in his cot, not actually him doing it himself..therefore when he wakes during the night he doesnt know how to get himself back to sleep therefore weve to go through the whole process again (usually 1am-2am) then he'l wake again at say 5am, and by that time wer absolutely shattered an end up liftin him to our bed, an then will wake for day at 7am.

i know this takes time but has anybody any ideas on how we could do this differently to maybe make it easier for everyone?

cheers

[Mycatsmellsbad]

10 mins sounds like a long time to leave him especially if he’s properly screaming all that time. When I did it we started with 2 mins leaving before going in, then gradually extend to 3,4,5 mins etc. Maybe that’s worth a try?

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

Would he be soothed if you introduced a dummy?

[stumor87]

He takes a dummy, it definitely does soothe him slightly, but once we leave the room again, hes back to freaking out

[FATEdestiny]

Have you thought about the gentler process of gradual withdrawal instead?

So start off staying and giving him 100/% of your attention with the consistent message that he lies down, stays still, sucks his dummy. Staying until he's asleep.

Once it's established that he stays lying down, still and quiet, you gradually reduce how much attention and comfort he needs from you.

It's a slower process (months ususlly), but far less distressing.