I was furloughed from my job in April so now looking after our DD is my responsibility. I find my DH needs to work more and has stayed on our dining room to work! We both moved there when the lock down happened to look after DD.
We have a perfectly good office in our garden but he did not want to move back there because of the noise the neighbors kids make! 🙄
Him working on the table is both a help and hendrence. It's nice that DH can see him and he can watch her while I need the toilet, in the kitchen or doing laundry.
I was trying to talk with him last night as I'm feeling tired and frustrated. I don't get any time to myself, I want to study so I can get a few more qualifications as I'm not sure I'll have a job to go back to. Initially we agreed that I could do 2 hrs studying on a Tuesday and a Thursday. That lasted a week! I am supposed to remind him about it! In the end I'm just studying in the evenings. I said to him I'm tired, his answer is go to bed early! Gee thanks! By the time my DD goes to bed I have to tidy the kitchen and house. Then I want to study, so part my fault I guess.
Don't get me wrong, my DH does do stuff but I guess in my eyes not enough! Does that sound selfish and unreasonable? When I spoke with him, he got defensive and said that I don't appreciate his help and that I make it sound like he does nothing. Well I don't feel appreciated at all! I feel like hired help!
When you are stuck with a 3 year old day in and day out, entertaining her, feeding her, dealing with her tantrums and his because she is making too much noise! Yes I guess you feel like there is just not enough help! 🙈
I'm feeling very lost and frustrated. He went and slept in a different room last night because I could not sleep and was crying and now we are up,DD on sofa watching some TV and he's not said a word to me! Guess I have to apologise again and make it out like it's my fault for whatever reason!
I just want to have an adult conversation and not feel like we are blaming each other or trying to see who does the most! Is that too much to ask? Am I going about it all wrong?
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FairyDustSparkle · 07/05/2020 08:06
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