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DD2 has fallen out with me because she has to have train tracks - what shall I say to her??

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Wisteria Thu 13-Sep-07 12:30:45

She's fallen out with me because at the Orthodontist this morning, he told her she needed 4 teeth out and train track braces for 2 years. Then the stupid eejit of a man angry said it was up to her and she didn't have to have them if she didn't want them!! shock you would imagine that dealing with children every day would give him some idea of what not to say, wouldn't you?

Anyway I've told her she has to have them now and not wait etc because I know that she's better off getting it out of the way, not when she's 15/16 (she's 11 btw) so now she's not talking to me sad

How can I get her to appreciate that she will thank me in 2 years time? Can't stand it when she's cross with me cos I am pathetic I know!

Tortington Thu 13-Sep-07 12:32:18

say nowt.

you've said it.

when she winges - curtly reply - tough!

Charlee Thu 13-Sep-07 12:33:34

Erm not sure really, you coould show her pictures of how strieght her teeth will bhe if she gets them? or are there any celebs that wear/used to have braces to show her?

I do feel for her though i has my traintracks in for about 2 months before i couldn't hack the pain anymore and ripped them out, i do however still have wonky horrible teeth! sad

LoveMyGirls Thu 13-Sep-07 12:34:04

The sooner she starts them the sooner it will be over and she will have perfect teeth you are her mum and are doing what is best for her as always she will thank you in the end.

Let her sulk, she'll get over it.

WendyWeber Thu 13-Sep-07 12:35:02

2 years is a very long time when you're 11.

If I can I'll put pics of my DS2 before-and-after on my profile that you can show her - his before teeth were appalling, his after teeth are beautiful (he had to have a lot more than 4 out over the years - he's 14 now, had the tramtracks off at about 13½)

lornaloo Thu 13-Sep-07 12:35:32

Tell her that she will have horrible teeth as she gets older if she doesn't have it now. She will totally regret it later on in life if she doesnt have it done.

Wisteria Thu 13-Sep-07 12:39:51

grin Custy - that has been my reply so far but I was feeling like I'd been too harsh - glad to see I'm not the only one from school of tough love!

Thank you, pics would be great!!

Wisteria Thu 13-Sep-07 12:41:23

Charlee - do they hurt that much?? I know they hurt for a few days/ week or so but thought you got used to it.

PinkChick Thu 13-Sep-07 12:45:27

could you 'upgrade' them to swish all singing dancing pink/rainbow/flashing ones for her so she will think she loooks cool??

ruddynorah Thu 13-Sep-07 12:46:27

yes they really hurt. the tooth extractions hurt. the fitting hurts. the adjustment appointments hurt A LOT. and the actual teeth moving into place hurts. the worst of the worst is when it's taken off. like getting your teeth ripped out. i have a dislocated jaw due to orthodontic work in my early teens. i now can't open my mouth too wide (like a yawn) or my jaw locks. if this happens, which it does about twice a year or so, i have to have to go to hospital and be sedated for them to reposition my jaw.

PenelopePitstops Thu 13-Sep-07 12:46:53

tell her to get a grip in the nicest possible way and she will thank you so so much in 10 years!

i had braces for almost 4 years including retainers traintrakcs and one that had to be opened each day to widen my mouth but now i lve my teeth and am so so glad. Also she will be one of the first out of her friends to get it (lots of them will, unless you live in a wierd place where everyone has good teeth) so she can show them what its like etce

ruddynorah Thu 13-Sep-07 12:47:05

oh, and the teeth that were supposed to be straightened by all this have gone back to be crooked after 10 years.

Charlee Thu 13-Sep-07 12:47:27

Mine did becuse the wire kept snapping and my mouth was being cut to shreads my orthadontist was shite though i had to wait for weeks each time to get them fixed. Im sure it wont be that bad i know loads of people who have had them no probs. smile

gringottsgoblin Thu 13-Sep-07 12:48:01

i have wonky teeth because i didnt want braces, and it really doesnt bother me. i suppose it depends on how badly her teeth will affect her life and your dds personality, but if it was my child and they werent too bad i wouldnt force them. but then i wouldnt have spoken to my mum for the whole 2 years if she forced me to have them (really)

ruddynorah Thu 13-Sep-07 12:49:02

oh yes i had almost forgetton about the constant 'shredding' of the inside of my mouth for two years. i think my orthodontist was shite. but he was the only one in my area.

Wisteria Thu 13-Sep-07 12:49:05

I said to her that if we could get stripey ones we would (she loves stripes) but am not sure what's available. She's not a girlie girl so wouldn't want jewels in but isn't a footie mad tomboy either - more of a hippie chick tbh.

Am trawling web for fancy shit but if it was too expensive we wouldn't be able to afford it.

Tried to point out that I didn't want to have operations when i was young either, and her sister didn't want glasses but had to. She wasn't having any of it! If the orthodontist hadn't given her an option it would be ok.

Am I being unreasonable to be cross with him?

littlelapin Thu 13-Sep-07 12:49:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

KommandantColditz Thu 13-Sep-07 12:50:13

If they aren't too bad I wouldn't force it - I had train tracks, they were agony, they wrecked my music exams (played cornet), and I still have wonky teeth.

LilRedWG Thu 13-Sep-07 12:50:38

I had horrible teeth and had braces for over four years. They are a lot better now, but very painful at the time. I think you should take the tough love approach - she will thank you when she's older!

Wisteria Thu 13-Sep-07 12:51:10

Ruddynorah, you're really scaring me.....

They are really bad, teeth growing out everywhere and crooked.

KommandantColditz Thu 13-Sep-07 12:51:14

the amount of times I was in tears because o0f them - I could never force the issue. Honestly, they hurt so much!

gringottsgoblin Thu 13-Sep-07 12:51:40

if the orthodontist thinks they are not bad enough to need them maybe they arent that bad! it s a bit different to glasses or operations isnt it?

ruddynorah Thu 13-Sep-07 12:52:15

well i'm just saying how it was for me. no one told me it would hurt for two years.

littlelapin Thu 13-Sep-07 12:52:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Wisteria Thu 13-Sep-07 12:53:49

Rabbit - their teeth aren't even that bad to begin with are they? My dds are much worse so thank you; it might do the trick!

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