First of all hi and a little intro, I've been having a lurk here for a couple of days and like your girls' style! I'm a single parent of a nine-year-old boy and share custody with his dad. Now really need advice of my own and hoping you can help!
It all sounds a bit petty first of all but bear with me. DS has been playing football for a club since January. He was recently signed up to the B team and was chuffed to bits about that. Recently though a new deputy coach came on board (for the newly set up B team) and moved his positions (from midfield to defence for those who know their footy). Now he was a bit disappointed as he felt midfield was his 'home', was nicknamed the midfield maestro by the main coach, but I didn't realise how upset he has been until the last game (this is after three or four in defence). Last night he was sobbing about what he sees as something he has lost and said he feels ill when he plays now, as if he is "homesick". I know it's not about goal scoring, he just wants to feel comfortable in the position he plays in, would prefer to be a non star midfielder than a star defender. In all honesty he's probably equally fairly good in both, although a couple of recent own goals have dented his confidence (he insists it's not about this though and knows he's good in his new position too).
Now I'm in a dilemma. He is far from spoilt. I appreciate it's hard to be objective but I'm always being told what a lovely boy he is and that at parties/sleepovers etc he never makes a fuss, giving party prizes away to those who haven't won anything. I've always been conscious of spoiling him so on the one hand I'm telling myself I don't want to suddenly indulge his demands but on the other it is not like him to make a fuss, he normally soldiers on with what he is given, so this is unusual and it is important that he enjoys playing football, for him and the team. He is very reasonable for his age, something his coaches appreciate, and I have rarely seen him so upset.
So do I say anything to his main coach (the final decision maker who I get on well with and is a sympathetic man) and if so, what? Obviously it is not on for me to ask that he changes positions, and there are the other kids to consider, but I was wondering if I just precised the first paragraph here and found out what the future plans are and if there was any possibility he was given another go in midfield at some point in the future after a bit more time in defence? I just don't know whether that makes me sound like a pushy mum making unreasonable demands for my spoilt son. But then I can't just ignore how upset he is.
Gah! I thought maybe I would one day be writing such a dramatic post about his problems with girls, not berluddy football positions!
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Deludinoid · 10/09/2007 09:51
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