How to stop feeling like this :((4 Posts)
I have a 2 year old, separated from father. Ds is bloody brilliant, he's a happy boy, funny, etc. And he's my entire world.
But since the day he was born all I do is worry about him. Is he happy, do I do enough activities, is he socialising with other children enough, etc.
I feel knackered constantly, even more so now being a single parent. I have no family my parents are no longer alive and I feel lonely. Bedtimes are still a struggle, and even during the night when he's asleep I lie there worrying he's going to wake up, wonder about if he's too cold, hot or whatever.
I can't help but feeling life will always just be one big worry now I have him. I'm scared stiff about him going to nursery when he's 3 as what if he doesn't like it? What if he gets upset?
I'm just exhausted with it all. I don't know how to just go with the flow and stop being anxious about every little thing surrounding ds. On the surface I'm fine, always out and about with him doing tonnes of things, he has a brilliant life but I can't stop feeling anxious and guilty about literally everything!
Please help I want to just be happy and enjoy life without feeling like this. Any book recommendations or ways of thinking, coping mechanisms etc would be greatly appreciated.
Sounds like you have quite a few anxieties perhaps you should talk to someone. My local family centre has a group for parents who are struggling with their feelings to get together. Perhaps there is something in your area or you could speak to your doctor
I would advise going to the Gp to get talking to someone and put in the right direction. Maybe your health visitors can advise too. It won't be good for you or him in the long run.
A lot of what you describe is similar to how I felt. I found meditation and listening to Buddhist talks very helpful (and I’m not actually Buddhist).
I also found that I’m different with my second child; I’m less stressed about him. I was worried that I would be just as anxious the second time around.
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