I don’t want to seem ungrateful my OH’s family help out so much with things for my DD! But when we see them it’s like I’m borrowing my own baby! they are quite an over the top family and it is there first GD but sometimes it feels like they go against everything I say. When we visit they will want to hold my DD (which is fine) but they won’t put her down or give her back.
When it’s time to feed her I will ask for her back and they will say ‘no she is just tired’ when my child is crying and eating her hand because she is hungry & due for a feed. Another time, my OH’s family member brought their dog around & although it was a friendly dog they left my baby on the floor with the dog running around. They wouldn’t let me pick her up & I’m incredibly allergic to dogs so had to bathe her at a stupid time!
They do things like put their hand in her mouth when she’s teething which I honestly couldn’t tell you how clean they are!! they kiss her hands and face when they have a history of getting cold sores.
My OH’s sister had a respiratory infection and no one made us aware so we went round as normal and she was coughing on her hands and then holding my DD.
When we are out in public and they are leaving they will find ANYONE other than me to take her. Even if my OH is on the other side of the room & I’m sitting with his family they will still take her all the way to him instead of me.
Every time we see them it’s a fight for them to have her. One time my OH’s mum said to another family member ‘I’m having her first’ and they both rushed over.
My OH doesn’t see a problem with any of this & every time I talk to him about it it goes through one ear and out the other!!
I’m at the end of my patience. Every time I come home from seeing them with my DD & OH I cry. I don’t feel like I can ask them not to do something as I don’t want to fall out with his family.
I need help... how do I tell them no & how do I go about this in the right way?
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Borrowing my own baby?
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mummaintraining19 · 14/02/2020 11:46
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