Apologies for the long post. I'm on mobile, so can't guarantee paragraphs will show.p
DD has been going slowly down hill for a long time now. Since the summer at least, but it's hard to be sure when it started.
She's struggling with sleep, having previously been one of these "out like a light, sleeps like the dead" children. She now falls asleep ok but wakes in the early hours of the morning (2-3am most days) and, despite trying for hours, can never fall back to sleep. I don't know if this is the cause of her unhappiness or if it's the other way around, but feel it's relevant.
Behaviour-wise, she is brilliantly behaved at school. There are no issues with bullying (though there were some in Reception, which were resolved and have not resurfaced).
At home, she is rarely outright naughty but she cannot seem to listen to any instructions, and consequently gets in trouble a lot. She is also very snappy with her sister (2) and often does unkind things completely unprovoked, or shouts at her for no reason. She's also been known to whisper instructions for DD2, knowing full well it'll get her in trouble if she follows them. It is exhausting constantly asking her to do the same basic tasks, or telling her off for doing something she knows she's not supposed to be doing (little things like not using felt tip pens when sitting anywhere but the table).
But, when she's told off, she just bursts into tears, or barely holds them back. Like it's a) a surprise to her that she's being told off for pinching her sister) and b) as if we have screamed and shouted at her - this is very rare, but I have shouted on occasion, like when she was deliberately trying to slam DD2's fingers in the living room door for the 3rd time that morning.
She was such a ray of sunshine a year ago. Happy was her default setting. She was always willing to give something new a go, really keen to be kind to others, always laughing and giggling about something. And now she's just...not. The sleep deprivation has made her look quite ill and she just seems so deeply, deeply sad all the time. We have tried to make sure we do things just for her, take time to chat and do the things she loves, but she just continues to be more and more unhappy. I feel like we are failing her and I don't know what more we can do.
Has anyone had similar? I don't know where to turn and I need her to get better.
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DD(5) is exhausted and unhappy and I don't know how to help her
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Spanneroo · 14/01/2020 17:26
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