1a - 8.30
2.none from me, as won't pick clothes up off floor/make bed/ pick up sweet wrappers etc, I do buy him sweets, books and comics etc. £5 month off gran.
3 - boundaries - take phone when he goes out.
School night 8.30 weekend 10 pocket money £2 a week I already buy choc bars and sweets.
Always tell them that if they are late for any reason to ring you, so make sure they take their phone and all home work to be done when they come home so as to have the rest of the evening free. If they are too ill to goto school then they are too ill to go out with their friends after school.
Bedtime as the rest. Pocket money £5 per week, but she has to buy all 'extras' with that - pony mags etc. Bought her own jodphurs yesterday as she has a perfectly good pair but wanted a different colour.
Boundaries - has tv limits as she would watch all day otherwise. Has to do chores - empty dishwasher, lay & clear table for tea, generally muck in if we need to do quick clear up etc. Privacy - we always knock before entering bedroom, but at this age she is not allowed to forbid us entry to the bedroom so it's more of a courtesy than a request to enter thing.
Periodic bouts of bolshiness dealt with by sending to room until she is reasonable again. Don't discount the anxiety the change to high school will cause, even if she maintains that she's cool about it.
Anyway, it's a lovely age, as they've not quite got to the teenager bit yet, but they're old enough to go out & have fun with - enjoy.
Berries - She is being incredibly brave about starting her new school - went to the intake disco on her own and got talking to some girls, not sure I'd do that now and I'm 35! I changed school quite a few times and I always found it quite traumatic.
I just thought of a boundry! Yes, she has to take her phone out with her, but then, what 11 year old would be seen dead without it! It must have credit on it and be charged!! No charge or no credit = no going out! (She pays for her own credit out of her £20 a month.)