Hello,
I have had the worst night of my parenting life.
I smacked my child and I can’t see a way back from this line.
My daughter is very challenging, we fled domestic abuse and her dad dragged me through family court twice whilst stalking etc. Coercive control. Ptsd. . I fought, but court is very black and white and contact increased with him.
Daughters behaviour deteriorated, weeing and smearing, attacking me biting pulling hair, extreme oppositional behaviour but now she’s 8, she speaks so awfully, I don’t speak to her like that and she literally shouts at me and orders me about. Laughs at me if I cry.
She doesn’t sleep.
I used to be her safe place. Now I’m not because I smacked her and she hates me. And I hate myself.
She has been refusing to wear pyjamas to bed, our routine is I get into bed with her to read, then we lie down and I stay until she is asleep. But she was lying on me, getting her bottom on me and I was calmly saying about personal space and how it’s inappropriate to get bare bottoms on people and when someone says they don’t like it you should stop. But she does it more, hits me, kicks and carries on. I remove myself, she does the usual growling and ordering me to open the door an a specific angle which is never correct. She jumps out of bed and pulls out my hair, shouts to do the door, I calmly say we need kind words but she shrieks. I feel like I felt with her dad, the behaviour is so like him. I trigger. I smack her on her back.
I hate myself I am a disgusting mother. Everything is ruined.
Her dad now doesn’t want to see her due to her difficult behaviour. So I get no break.
Families in focus, on list for cahms, etc. Asking a lot for help. But resources stretched.
All through the abusive relationship and court, my worst fear was I’d lose her, ( he threatened to take her, or to commit suicide with her) and now I have lost her through my own actions. She will never trust me again.
I’ve done all the parenting courses. I’ve read all the books. I had a happy safe childhood. It breaks my heart that I can't replicate that for her.
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Lost it with challenging dd and smacked
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ineedakickandagin · 01/12/2019 23:52
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