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Do you make your kids something else if they don't like dinner?

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SallyAnne89 Sat 02-Nov-19 17:57:38

I try to offer lots of different foods at a meal time so there's something they already like. However, recently it feels like they are not even giving it a proper go and just expecting me to conjure up something else (yeah, just like a magic new meal because they don't fancy whatever it is) and I'm really not on for that. What do you do if they don't eat dinner? Do you offer an alternative? If so, what? Thanks

palmaviolet66 Sat 02-Nov-19 18:00:01

You're making a rod for your own back by offering something different

Grannybags Sat 02-Nov-19 18:00:12

How old are the DC? Are you trying to give them new things or are they just being fussy?

Musicalstatues Sat 02-Nov-19 18:00:22

Not unless I feel they’ve genuinely tried it properly. I can usually tell if it’s a proper dislike or just a ‘I’d rather have something else situation’. If he’s given it a proper try then he’s allowed fruit and yoghurt afterwards if he wants. I definitely don’t make another meal! If he’s starving then he can have a slice of cheese or similar as well.

SummerHouse Sat 02-Nov-19 18:00:36

Wholemeal toast and or fruit. I am soft but like to know they have eaten something. I don't really like the force feeding/cajoling/bargaining but I think we have slipped further from a varied diet as a result.

HeyNotInMyName Sat 02-Nov-19 18:02:52

NO NO and NO

They’ve never been offered an alternative. At most they have been offered some bread and a fruit.
If something was in the dish, they didn’t like, theyve been told to put it in the side of the plate.
But before deciding they didn’t like x or y, they’ve had to actually TRY it (our rule was at least 6 times) just because sometimes, you need to just get use to a new taste. Try was one or two mouthful btw, not a whole plate of it or even a spoonful

MmeBufo Sat 02-Nov-19 18:03:05

They’re allowed bread or a bit of fruit but certainly not within half an hour or so of being offered dinner

Sockworkshop Sat 02-Nov-19 18:03:07

Nope eat it or go without.
Strangely enough mine always ate it wink

PlasticRainHood Sat 02-Nov-19 18:03:14

I say OK, you're not hungry then. If you're not eating then go and play or get ready for bed.

After an hour or so I'll ask if they're hungry yet (or they may say they're hungry in the meantime). If they are, I'll offer the food again, warmed up if necessary.

If they really dislike it then they can have bread and butter and an apple. But they have to get it themselves because I already got them food.

user1493413286 Sat 02-Nov-19 18:03:29

I’ll offer my toddler DD pasta but older DSD we don’t although she’s given a chance to object earlier on before we cook/when we are planning meals. If she then decides she doesn’t want it once cooked then it’s tough although if she was then hungry she can have toast later in the evening.

MmeBufo Sat 02-Nov-19 18:03:56

YY food MUST be tried. Every. Single. Time.

LittleCandle Sat 02-Nov-19 18:08:14

No, if mine didn't eat, and it was something that it was safe for DD1 to eat considering all her allergies, then she went to bed hungry. Tough shit. Her diet was challenging enough without making something separate for just her, unless XH had once again 'forgotten' that she was allergic to something he wanted to have.

eurochick Sat 02-Nov-19 18:12:00

Yes because she wouldn't sleep if she was hungry so we would end up paying if she didn't eat anything. But just beans on toast - quick to make and plain enough not to be seen as a treat alternative.

stucknoue Sat 02-Nov-19 18:13:51

Nope! Eat as a family from babyhood

Spanglyprincess1 Sat 02-Nov-19 18:14:31

No just a flat no. No fuss just that all your having so if you don't eat it there is nothing else.
Otherwise with 4 it would be horrific

SallyAnne89 Sat 02-Nov-19 18:16:52

I think I might just start serving every meal with bread roll/bread and butter, an extra vegetable (like corn cobs, or carrot sticks, something they'll usually eat) then fruit/yoghurt/dessert after. I'm sick of making food they refuse then hearing "I'm hungry" ten minutes later.

Biancadelrioisback Sat 02-Nov-19 18:17:10

I did tonight, but normally no!
DS hasn't eaten all day but has been a bit under the weather so I caved and made porridge after he refused the chicken and veg.

SocksRock Sat 02-Nov-19 18:18:41

Nope, I don't cook stuff I know they don't like, but in general they are expected to make a good go at everything. They are allowed yogurt and fruit if they don't want it, but nothing else.

They are now 11,9 and 6, and will eat most things.

SallyAnne89 Sat 02-Nov-19 18:20:21

Feels so wasteful even the meals they claim to like half the time don't get eaten. I'm just throwing food (and money) away and I do not have enough of either right now to be doing it. Plus all the time I waste cooking and then they don't even try it.

ILiveInSalemsLot Sat 02-Nov-19 18:20:43

No. I did used to offer weetabix before bed when they were younger but now they’re a bit older, I know what their genuine dislikes are so I avoid those and everyone eats the same meal.

joystir59 Sat 02-Nov-19 18:22:36

Eat it and cannot leave the dinner table until they have at least eaten a bit of everything. Not offered anything else.

loutypips Sat 02-Nov-19 18:25:02

Nope! Unless it's something I'm not sure they will like, or if one of my experiments goes wrong.
If dd doesn't eat something I know she likes, or hasn't refused before I'll only offer bread, yoghurt or fruit.

OctoberLovers Sat 02-Nov-19 18:26:31

Dont offer a sugery pudding after

They will just eat the bread and then dessert

JellyBabiesSaveLives Sat 02-Nov-19 18:29:24

I had one child who would choose to go hungry rather than eat things he doesn’t like the look of - to the point of visibly losing weight when I stuck to my guns for a couple of weeks once. And another child with Type 1 diabetes who knows I have to get him to eat. So I make sure that every meal includes something that each person likes, and they can have a lot of that if they want. And if anyone is too grumpy or fussy they get roped into helping me cook the next meal.

WingDefence Sat 02-Nov-19 18:32:24

Don’t start offering bread rolls and butter, they will eat that and not the food you’ve made for them. If they are hungry after wasting food that you consider they’d like, tough.

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