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2 babies close age gap .. Advice please

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megan160 · 11/10/2019 15:46

So I posted the other day regarding a pregnancy test I'd done but wasn't too sure if it was a positive one. Just taken another 2 (Clearblue Digital ones) this morning and I'm definitely expecting ..

However, I feel like I'm gonna get judged a hell of a lot. I only gave birth to my daughter in July. I got back on contraception a few weeks after giving birth so the last thing me and my partner expected was another baby so soon. I'm only young, I'm about to turn 20 and my partner is 22. I couldn't ask for better he's so supportive and I know I've got him by my side but I'm terrified of what others will say. Given my age and I'm now expecting my second child.. I don't want to come across as something I'm not, I'm worried what my family will think.

But also the age gap. There will be 11 months between this one and my daughter. I'm just looking for any woman who has had children with the same age gap if not a similar one?? How did you cope did you manage? I'm honestly a nervous wreck

Anything will be appreciated 🙃 x

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HalyardHitch · 11/10/2019 15:50

I have a twelve month age gap. It's honestly do able. The boys are now one and two. Its tough when they're both poorly and I do feel they've missed out on the one to one time with me but they both napped at lunch time for about twelve months which was a blessing.

Get the sleep patterns of your eldest established as quickly as you can - you don't have to leave them to cry to do this.

Stay organised. Get a good sling for the youngest. And just appreciate when your current baby sleeps now- rest when you can

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blondeirishmummy84 · 11/10/2019 16:56

There is 12 months between my two and I was so scared when i found out i was expecting my second and how id cope,guilt etc....but now my youngest is almost 7 months and im so glad of the short age gap! Not going to lie....its hard at times when they both need you at same time but you just manage and get through it. It definitely gets easier. My eldest goes to childcare a few days a week so i have one on one time with my baby girl,so if youre able to afford that,do it. We have no family close by so dont have much help but my hubby is great support which helps. There are times ive felt guilty at having cbeebies on too much to entertain my eldest wee boy but you do what you have to,go to soft play,get friends/family to help in early days......dont worry about housework.
Dont worry about people judging you either,it wont matter in years to come! I am 35 so older than you but my cousin had an 11 month old age gap between her two boys when she was only 20 and she managed just fine....in fact went on to have another two kids a few years after!
It will take a while to sink in but there are lots of advantages to having a short age gap....someone once told me why walk through fire when you can run through it lol.xx

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autumnleaves99 · 11/10/2019 17:06

13 month age gap between my two and I remember feeling exactly the same as you do when I found out. I found it got a lot easier after the first year, and now I love the small age gap, they're great friends and enjoy similar types of activities. Congratulations!

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