Hi, I have a week old much wanted baby boy delivered by c section as he was breech. I also have a 2.5 year old daughter. Recovery seems to be going OK but obviously I have quite a few restrictions.
I know it’s early days and baby blues have set in a bit but I just can’t stop crying about how desperately I miss my daughter. It’s almost like I’m grieving for our relationship that already seems to have changed so much. My son has taken to feeding really well but that means that he is on me all the time! This is particularly bad in the evening so I am unable to do bath bed etc. with her.
DD is taking things in her stride although it is clear that she misses me too. She just asked to “go out with mummy.” This also made me weep! I can’t pick her up and cuddle her properly and that is also breaking me. DH has been going everywhere with DD and I feel jealous when they go out.
I am ashamed to admit that I resent my son a little for getting in the way of what we had. Even though I love him so much too.
Also, I keep crying in front of my daughter. It seems totally uncontrollable but I’m sure this isn’t helping!
Does anyone have experience of this and does this get easier? Will I still keep that lovely bond that we always had with my firstborn?
Any advice/thoughts gratefully received!!
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Missing my firstborn since having newborn
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Jenbot78 · 07/10/2019 14:33
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