I feel like I can't cope with DD1 anymore
DD1 is 3 (also have DD2 who is 8 months) and I really struggling at the minute with discipline. I am quite strict, I don't let her get away with some of the things DH does where he says "she's only 3".
I have tried the naughty step - doesn't work. I have tried removing favourite toys & books for a certain amount of time - doesn't work. I have tried no DVD's for certain period of time - doesn't work.
I always give her 3 warnings before one of these happen and I always tell her if she keeps ignoring me/doing whatever it is she is doing that I am trying to stop then one of these things is going to happen. As they don't work it usually ends up in me shouting or smacking her - which again don't work, just make me feel like shit for making her cry
I'll give you some examples of what she has done just today, bearing in mind it is only 9.30ish - tried playing her Brum DVD on my laptop when I asked her not to touch it (I literally went into kitchen to put plate in dishwasher), threw Shrek DVD on floor so I asked her to pick it up to which she just replied No continuosly for about 2 minutes eventually she did after I threatened her with one of the usual things. She then apologised, gave me a hug and said she wanted to go and sit on her bed for a rest and play toys, she had been upstairs about 2-3 minutes before i came up to find red paint all over the wall of her bedroom and her telling me she has painted sparkles !
She was smacked and is now sitting on her bed playing, while I am feeling shit because I've smacked her and feel useless because I just can't seem to deal with her.
She blatantly ignores people - you could stand right in front of her calling her name and if she doesn't want to answer you, she wont, she will just act as if you aren't there.
She may be bored but it is 9.30am and I have a 8 month old to sort out too - we go out every day so she is always kept busy, whether is visiting people, park, picnic, swimming - there is always something we are doing.
She is such a gorgeous little girl and is at times the sweetest thing I have ever seen, she is funny and smart and I love the bones of her.
Me and DH argue all the time, he hates me shouting, his answer is "she's 3, she doesn't know" or "We were just as bad at her age". My Mum & MIL think she is bored and playing up because she needs to get to school and be more stimulated for longer.
I don't know what I expect from posting this, I just feel like a bit of a failure not being able to cope with a 3 year old
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FoghornLeghorn · 02/08/2007 09:43
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