Talk

Advanced search

So, is what Kris Murrin (from Honey We're Killing the Kids) speaking the truth.........

(6 Posts)
TheQueenOfQuotes Wed 01-Aug-07 22:04:58

when she says that doing a "structured activity" (such as sport) can help boost confidence? Or am I just deluding myself that if DS1 continues to enjoy the Rugby training, like he did this evening, that he'll gain more self confidence???

And - is my distinct lack of self confidence still going to affect him regardless of enjoying the Rugby?

TheQueenOfQuotes Thu 02-Aug-07 12:21:23

well?????

Miaou Thu 02-Aug-07 12:28:36

not necessarily (re the lack of confidence thing) - I have very little self-confidence but my dds seem to have loads (dd2 is not as confident as dd1 but a lot of that we put down to personality). I remember one particular family on that prog. where the father took the son along to an athletics session; son dropped out and the father went on and on about how he (the father) had no self-confidence and that it affected how his son felt about joining in ... totally counter-productive! I doubt my kids are aware I have confidence issues and afaI'm concerned, that's the way it should be!

I can imagine that a structured activity can help boost confidence for all sorts of reasons - enjoyment of the activity itself, an opportunity to make friends away from school and home setting, learning to work as part of a team, gaining confidence and encouragement from their increasing skill and ability ... etc etc etc.

chopchopbusybusy Thu 02-Aug-07 12:29:00

I think if it is a structured activity that he enjoys and is reasonably competetant at then it will be good for self confidence.

expatinscotland Thu 02-Aug-07 12:31:27

No, I think she's generalising and so of course that is bollocks.

What's wrong with letting people, including kids, do something they enjoy so long as it's not harming anyone/thing?

There's so much pressure on kids to do this and that.

TheQueenOfQuotes Thu 02-Aug-07 12:33:48

but expat - what if that "person" won't try new things because of a lack of confidence? And instead sticks to the same, small number, of activities which are mainly for one person only, rather than doing stuff with other people?

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now