I read a thread the other day about parenting toddlers and have basically been worrying ever since.
I have two boys, 1.5 and 2.5. The 2.5 yo has just recently been diagnosed with coeliacs disease. This does have a behaviour impact as children with coalics disease are most commonly misdiagnosed as having ADHD. You are also more likey to have ASD, thyroid issues, diabetes, issues with speech development, balance issues, growth issues...the list goes on.
The older he gets, the more I see a gap in how his friends behave and how he behaves. Any classes are a no go. I had to remove him from the library during a sing session this week as he was resistant to join in, running off, getting books out and dumping them everywhere, laying on the floor tantrumming. Typical toddler stuff. His just seems to be every. single. day and is really relentless.
He's happy when he's released into the wild (woods, country park, any park, the garden). But the second we put a requirement on him he resists quite strongly.
We are as consistent as we can be. We use time out, we offer sanctions, eg if you climb on the sofa I'll turn the TV off. He does sometimes respond and does understand. However as soon as we're asking him to do something it's just meltdown city
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He's very particular about mess, his clothes, his routines. He's also an absolutely great kid. He's full of life and fun but often looks like the weight of the world is on his shoulders. He naps and sleeps far far more than he should at this at (13/14 hours over night plus naps of approx. 2 hours) and is on a strong iron supplement.
He is very much THAT child. I can't take him to friends houses, he can't walk in supermarkets, I can't take him to the library. I really feel I'm failing him. He can't even sit still for a story (although will sit for a wriggly bedtime story).
My 18 month old is great. He can walk around a supermarket with me. At 18 months, my eldest wouldn't have been able to.
They're such different kids. I can't help but see just how much by two year old struggles with life.
Is it really just about parenting? If it is then I'm a really rubbish parent. I just don't know what to do about it but I feel like I'm always telling him off or correcting his behaviour. Climbing on tables, pulling curtains, throwing toys, hitting his brother, running off, jumping on the back of the sofa, trying to climb in the pond...the list is so so so endless.
Is it me?!
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HalyardHitch · 19/07/2019 14:10
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