Pre teen mood swings

[HarryChloe]

Hi hope others are experiencing these issue. My 10yr old girl is a nightmare her mood swings are out of control she kicks screams stamps around the house takes herself off outside. One minute she is lovely but any tiny thing can set her off. She is very mature for her age so hope it's just hormonal and she will learn to recognise that her moods are unacceptable. We have tried all types of discipline the only thing that seems to work is giving her some space and discuss things later. My parents strongly disagree with this discipline as they feel she is doing what she likes but it saves a full blown melt down. Her behavior is so unpredictable I feel I'm on egg shells around her so I can calm the situation before it explodes. My son is no bother at all and he's 12 so where have we gone wrong. Any advice appreciated

[Pineapplefish]

I think it depends what exactly your DD is being disciplined for. If she's just being a bit argumentative and shouty, then I agree with you to give her some space and let her calm down, and your parents need to step back and let you be the parent. However if there's anything more serious (eg swearing at someone, hurting someone, doing something you've specifically asked her not to do etc) then you need to take action to stop her (by removing privileges arc). When you say she kicks, do you mean she kicks a person?

How is she at school?

[HarryChloe]

She is perfect at school and when she is out at her friends parents just at home. We do remove gadgets and treats as a punishment and are consistent at sticking to this. All I can describe her moods as are 2 year old tantrums she kicks the floor or the back of the car seat when she is in complete meltdown. We tend to have a week of really amazing behavior then one day of moods. I am able to pin point the start of these moods but don't know how to bring her out of them, tried everything. Xx

[Rowgtfc72]

We had the hormone chat. She knows she will get some leeway but there are still consequences for really bad behaviour.
A lot of it with dd was that she couldn't explain why she was feeling cross/sad.

[HarryChloe]

DD is exactly the same can't explain why she gets so cross. It's just an episode then back to normal wired. She's always been very strong willed.

[Rowgtfc72]

Dd- otherwise known as ninja- is rather strong willed too!
She's 5ft 9 and bigger than me so basically an adult sized child having a tantrum. Gone are the days I could put her under my arm and carry her away.