Advanced search

How many Mum's are in photos

(36 Posts)
POPPY1490 Tue 16-Apr-19 10:54:28

I recently sat down and looked over all the photos of my daughters first year. I only have a handful where I'm in them. I found myself counting the photos and found that I'm only in about 50 photos of her first year.
I so wish I had more. I feel sad I don't have many more of the two of us. Am I the only one feeling this way or are other mums absent in photos to x

BalloonSlayer Wed 15-May-19 17:31:16

DH is lousy at taking photos bless him. I asked him to take a nice one of me with baby DS2 so that I had a good postnatal picture, I'd got dressed in something nice especially. When I saw it (non digital camera) my t-shirt was all rucked up so my belly was hanging out, hmm - DH clearly hadn't noticed it. Thanks DH!

Last weekend we went out with - now much older! - DS2. I took a nice picture of DH and DS2 at a scenic point with my phone - point, no adjustments, click, lovely!

DH asked if I wanted one. Oh yes please! We stand there. He faffs with the screen, going in closer . . . further away . . . closer . . . further away. Takes it. Gives me my phone back. We walk off. Later I have a look. DS and I are specks in the distance and out of focus. The photo of DS and DH, however, is fab. WTF?

I never have any decent photos!

Gwlondon Sat 11-May-19 22:03:48

I have been so upset by this. Especially as I have so many photos of other people holding my kids when they were babies. Wtf. Can’t believe no one wanted to take a photo of me with them.
Also my husband used to take so many blury photos and insist they weren’t blury.

Gone2far Thu 09-May-19 17:52:21

I call myself the Invisible Woman. It's not unkindness on my oh's side, just thoughtlessness. We did have a chat about it though so he does take more.

Orangecake123 Tue 07-May-19 14:26:31

I'm currently 27. I honestly only have 3 photos with my father and 3 with my mother altogether. I wish I had more from when I was younger.

I think this is actully a very common thing. Make an effort to take more now OP.

purpleweasel Tue 30-Apr-19 16:47:41

Or, as with freshasthebrightbluesky, give the kids cameras, or let them have a go with yours if it's not too expensive/breakable. You will get lots of odd pictures but you might get a few really good ones too

Topseyt Tue 30-Apr-19 08:52:31

Fifty is quite a lot. I don't think I am on even a dozen pics of our three as babies, but I am happy that way because they are far more photogenic than me.

You need a selfie stick for your phone if you want regular photos of you and the kids without having to rely on other people all the time.

freshasthebrightbluesky Mon 29-Apr-19 14:01:11

On the other hand: once you have dc number 2, you won't even take 50 photos!

Not strictly true; since dc2 was a child I started getting interested in photography so took more pictures with them rather than fewer. I'm just very rarely in any of the shots!

freshasthebrightbluesky Mon 29-Apr-19 13:57:02

There is one of me with my 1st as a baby, taken whilst in hospital and there is another one, somewhere, that my sil took with feeding my dc1.
There are no photos at all of me with dc2 as a newborn.
There are no photos at all of me on our 1st family holiday.
The only photos we had of us as a family and not just dh+dc, until recently when I made us all have a family selfie in the living room, are from our wedding.
The only reason why dh takes occasional photos of me with dc now is because I moaned so much about the lack of anything with me in and explained how much it upset me that if I were to die, the dc would have no photos of me either on my own or with them.
My dc have had their own cameras since they were 3 and they've taken more pictures of me than he ever has so I've had a few printed out and either put in the family albums or they have them in their rooms. I think he just takes it for granted that I'm there. There are loads of him with the dc.

justasking111 Mon 29-Apr-19 13:24:12

I am in so few with three children OH is in lots. You have to say just take a photo of me with the kids. At DS wedding I asked the photographer to take a photo of me with 3 sons. He did it was fab DIL framed and gave it to me. OH still sulking about it grin

purpleweasel Mon 29-Apr-19 13:21:24

There are two reasons to take photos/videos: for you & your kids to look back on them in their young days, but also for your kids to have records of you too. So make sure if you can that you and your partner are in some of the films so your kids have footage of you to look at in later years

Domesticdunce Fri 19-Apr-19 19:50:42

I used to be into photography and i took thousands of photos of my ex with the dc. There is one photo of me as a baby and no photos of me with my children.

Ohhellothereladyface Fri 19-Apr-19 19:48:03

OP I feel your pain! I’m constantly taking photos of DD, and DD with OH/ DD with her little friends etc and sometimes I realise it looks like I don’t exist! I sometimes worry she will look through photos when she’s older and think I never did anything with her because it doesn’t look like I’m even there!

LonelyTiredandLow Fri 19-Apr-19 04:40:46

I'm a single parent, so I noticed this very early on.
Get a selfie stick and try to remember to take one of you as a group when you get to whatever day trip you do, is my advice.
I love taking photos though and sometimes am glad no one is pointing the camera at me. Yes, if you have a partner they should/could help, but from what i've heard from married friends it doesn't seem to be the case. So take it into your own hands!

CadburysTastesVileNow Wed 17-Apr-19 20:47:02

On the other hand: once you have dc number 2, you won't even take 50 photos !

POPPY1490 Wed 17-Apr-19 09:13:15

Thank you to you all. I thought I was the only one feeling this way over photographs. I'm going to start asking my family to take the odd photo of us together.

Flicketyflack Tue 16-Apr-19 21:43:26

I have noticed this too!

I also have less than five of my husband, me and my children either or as babies or now.... sad

We have taken more group selfies but that means we are always just a group of heads grin

Flicketyflack Tue 16-Apr-19 21:43:10

I have noticed this too!

I also have less than five of my husband, me and my children either or as babies or now.... sad

We have taken more group selfies but that means we are always just a group of heads grin

sanmiguel Tue 16-Apr-19 21:33:30

Mine are 11 plus and I'd say I have no more than 11 pics of me and DC and they're prob selfies!

Shelbybear Tue 16-Apr-19 19:35:02

50 is loads. I have 15ish if I'm lucky of us both. I take so many photos and videos of her but not really with us both. Think we have 1 pic of the 3 of us which is really bad, she's 2 now.

BlueAndYellowPurplePills Tue 16-Apr-19 19:02:33

This is me too.
My Dp never ever thinks to take photos. We went out today I took 130 phots of the kids and a few with him in. None of me. I didn’t even do a selfie.
My kids will think he brought them up alone. 😭🤬

CalamityJune Tue 16-Apr-19 18:56:31

I have very few photos of me with DS and the ones I do have are either crap selfies or ones that I have asked to be taken and so inevitably are cringey.

I've got so many nice moments of DH where neither of them even knew I was taking photos.

I don't even have the classic, sat up proudly holding him in the hospital bed one sad Just the sweaty, veiny boobed, twenty chins skin to skin post birth snap.

LorelaiRoryEmily Tue 16-Apr-19 18:49:06

I don’t have many with me and ds when he was a baby. Dh just didn’t think to take them. I actually had a bit of a meltdown with him one day over it. His sister was here and holding ds and they were playing and dh went rushing to get his phone and take a photo. I was so upset.
When he asked what was wrong I asked him to show me how many photos he had of me and ds and he had about 5. He had loads of ds with mil,fil and sils and sweet fuck all of me.
The apparently insignificant person who gave birth to ds.
He’s much better now but there’s still more of him

Bigearringsbigsmile Tue 16-Apr-19 18:46:48

I have less than 50 photos of me with my son's and they are 19 and 16. I hate having my photo taken.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Tue 16-Apr-19 18:43:18

There are very few photos of me between birth until I'm about 17. Three that I know of, two that I have.

Shockers Tue 16-Apr-19 17:13:15

I have thousands of photos of DH with our (now older) children. There are very few of me with them; nobody else ever thinks to take photos.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, quick, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Get started »