My husband and I don't have family close by, so our DD (12 months soon) only sees her grandparents every couple of months. When they visit, she's very happy to play with them, but refuses to be left alone with them, i.e. will scream within a few minutes of DH and me leaving the room. We've tried building up to leaving, like all of us playing together, then DH/me moving to a different part of room (within view), over a couple of days, but nope, she freaks out.
I'm going back to work soon, and have just found a childminder to look after DD. We started settling in this week and I am absolutely flabbergasted that DD was totally fine when I left! She grizzled a bit at the start but was otherwise fine the first time, and second time was 100% tear-free.
I've tried to work out why DD was so ok with the childminder but not the grandparents. The childminder had other babies coming in and out, but some of the time it was just the two of them. The childminder is lovely and obviously has lots of experience. Is that what it is?
Anyone else in this position? How can we help the grandparents achieve this? The childminder does, unfortunately, have to go on holiday 😱 from time to time, and the grandparents want to provide cover but I feel very nervous about this at the moment.
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How to get baby to like grandparents?
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cornflakes5 · 11/04/2019 17:16
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