Struggling with 16/17 yr old

[Privateuser36]

Hello, I would love some advice. My Daughter when turned 16 has developed this huge attitude of 'she can do what she likes'. She started staying out all the time sleeping anywhere and everywhere. I managed to reel her back in from time to time, and kept contact of whereabouts etc. This got out of control and she twice 'ran away' effectively and the police or social services didn't want to help as she was safe and can do what she likes. The second time she demanded I wrote a letter to the council saying i've kicked her out. 3 weeks after her going and constant argueing, I wrote to the council explaining I felt pushed into it, she thinks she grown up enough and also mentioned depression shes suffered but refused help. This then led the council explaining she wont be housed so she came home- eventually! But the social worker from the council is still in contact with her and trying to get her to talk to someone. She still wont. But now its happened a third time, midnight shes had a row with her boyfriend and shouting and banging the house down waking her siblings up. I asked her to calm down which led her to starting on me, threatening to kill me and my husband, making accusations etc then again ran out of the house. Shes now telling me she will be home tomorrow to tell us how things have to change. She's already coming and going when she likes, when shes home shes starting on everyone and I really don't know what to do anymore. She will be 17 in two months. I don't want to kick her out, I actually work with children myself and also want to foster in the future, but now I feel so alone and confused. We cant keep dealing with her angry outburst, I feel I cant kick her out due to her age and also my work and future plans, shes not mature enough and wont get help with her depression and anger. I need help! And no family to turn to either.

[TeenTimesTwo]

Sorry, no advice, but there is a teenagers board which might get you more responses.
My elder teen has had a difficult few years too, though not violent.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Sorry that I can't help either OP.

If you report your own post, you can ask MNHQ to move this over to the teen section. You should get a few more replies in there