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Alphamummies - how many do you know personally?

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Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 10:43:39

For the sake of this thread, I'll define alphamummy with a pretty loose definition.

- works full-time and earns over £100 K
- married with husband working full-time and earning over £100 K
- at least two children who have got as far as secondary school without any hiccups
- no career breaks, divorces

How many women do you know personally (school friend, university friend, colleague, family member, neighbour) who have been doing the alphamummy thing for at least 11 years?

UnquietDad Thu 28-Jun-07 10:44:40

Are there also Beta and Gamma mummies?

And daddies?

WaynettaSpice Thu 28-Jun-07 10:45:30

I love the fact that an alpha mummy HAD to have a husband......

WaynettaSpice Thu 28-Jun-07 10:45:42

sorry HAS

Bibis Thu 28-Jun-07 10:45:57


I know quite a lot of 'yummy mummies' though, with husbands who earn well over £100k.

I'm definitely not a yummy mummy.

Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 10:46:19

We'll deal with the betas, gammas on a later thread.

Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 10:46:45

Waynetta - it's a media definition and I've been quite "light"

Whoooosh Thu 28-Jun-07 10:47:20

None-and I think I count myself lucky!

Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 10:47:31

Thanks, bibis.

Do you want to start a "how many yummy mummies do you know" thread?

Hathor Thu 28-Jun-07 10:49:30

I don't know how much anyone earns. I know how nice they are though.

Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 10:51:12

OK, let's add in "nice" to the list of criteria.

throckenholt Thu 28-Jun-07 10:51:22


Oblomov Thu 28-Jun-07 10:51:59

None. Hardly missing out am I ?

WaynettaSpice Thu 28-Jun-07 10:55:16

let's look at this objectively....the majority of 100K plus workers are probably in the South East, so it would therefore follow that the majority of alphamummies would be in the South therefore those who know alphamummies would probably tend to be in the SE.....and people in the SE acocunt for only a portion of the MNetters, so I am guessing that there are going to only a few who do.

I still don't see the point in categorising though...

foxinsocks Thu 28-Jun-07 10:55:28

I dunno - I reckon 3, maybe 4, maybe a few more. I have no idea what other occupations earn so I'm only guessing.

pollyanna Thu 28-Jun-07 10:56:38

I don't think any of the mothers at my dcs (private) school work. If they do, it is very part time or in voluntary work. (I work part time and am very much in the minority)

When I lived in London (I moved last August) there were maybe 4 mothers who were very high powered out of a class of 30, all still married, one had was married to a sahd though. The other 2 were married to FT working fathers, but I don't know if the fathers earned above £100k as I don't know what their jobs were.

When I worked in the City there were lots of alphamummies, but I didn't see the mummying side of their lives, just the working side.

Why do you want to know?

UnquietDad Thu 28-Jun-07 10:57:16

Do you people actually KNOW how much everybody you meet earns? There seems to be an unhealthy obsession with it on here.

Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 10:57:35

Waynetta - the point is that the media/society sometimes portrays alphamummies as an ideal to aspire to. So I'm interested in knowing how many we here on MN can identify in real life.

Lilymaid Thu 28-Jun-07 10:57:45

My boss - for 20 years

Quattrocento Thu 28-Jun-07 10:59:09

I mean I do know a few according to the terms you have laid out. The people I know tend to have primary school age children or pre-schoolers because of my age. But I do know a few, largely because of my workplace environment.

The thing I don't get is why you want to know?

foxinsocks Thu 28-Jun-07 10:59:19

do they (the press I mean)? I'm not sure it's portrayed that way - I certainly don't read it like that.

Quattrocento Thu 28-Jun-07 11:00:05

Is the point you are making that they are rare? They are rare. It's not an easy thing to do.

Anna8888 Thu 28-Jun-07 11:02:21

Quattrocento - I used to know lots and lots myself, but they've all "dropped out" (for want of a better term) as their children have got older.

My partner still has one former colleague who just about fits the bill - VC with four children. Husband is only part-time vet though.

Quattrocento Thu 28-Jun-07 11:03:58

I reckon I could get to ten pretty easily with school age children. Have eliminated the ones with pre-schoolers. Yes there is a high attrition rate.

foxinsocks Thu 28-Jun-07 11:06:17

there's plenty round here (London).

there are even more couples who both work full time but don't earn £100k each I reckon (not that I'd know, but at a guess).

I still don't really get what you are on about. I don't think society portrays that image as something to aspire to. On the other hand, I really don't think there's anything wrong in admiring someone who has done particularly well in their career, whether it earns them £100k or not iyswim.

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