So long story short basically my ex was very aggressive and controlling, i had my little boy extremely early(12weeks early to be exact) i was told my little one wouldn't make it, anyway he did. I think it was around about a week or more after i had given birth, i was extremely emotional and not in a clear state of mind however i knew i wanted little on to carry my surname, that didn't exactly work out. I was basically told he was going in my now ex partners name and was pretty much forced down to the register office(in the hospital because my little one was in NICU for a while) anyway, i felt forced into it and its broken my heart ever since. I don’t want it changed through deed poll because i just have to add to my ex’s last name. This isn't out of spite because we aren't together because he was toxic and i could never allow any child around drugs/alcohol and violence regardless of if he was prince charming(which by the way he was the furthest from) i am currently in the process of waiting for a solicitor to contact me regaurding this issue, i have a non-molestation order on little ones dad my ex which means i couldn't ask him and the answer would probably be ‘no’ and that’s putting it politely. I was just wondering if there is some sort of way to get rid of his last name and replace it officially and legally into mine? Obviously he stays on the birth certificate, and would the surname be used on legal documents ie; passport etc..i know with deed poll you have to use your original birth certificate.
I’m honestly so upset as i was certain my first child would have my name.. its not to be nasty in any way i am just so desperate for my little one to have my last name.. any advice would be helpful..
Thankyou in advance
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