8.5 month old a bit of an arse

[KitKatSplat]

SIGH.

My daughter is lovely... For about 2 minutes at a time. Then she starts whining/moaning. She also hates eating full stop. We take her out. We keep her in. We distract her. We're mindful of the special diet (diagnosed egg and milk allergy.) We give her 1-to-1 time. First it was teething, then it was a leap, then it was a poorly tummy, then and then and then... But it's been 2 months now, and I'm beginning to think she's just a bit of an arse. By the time it reaches the end of the day I am exhausted from her near constant moaning. I'd say in any given day she's 70-80% "challenging."

I guess I just want someone to say "Yes, we've had this! There's light at the end of the tunnel!" Because this kid is burning me out.

[melissasummerfield]

She is probably frustrated as im guessing shes not quite mobile but wants to be? Thats what happened with mine at this age

[MuddyForestWalks]

Sorry but this made me laugh a bit. Some babies are arses, it's true. Assuming she's getting enough sleep and you've ruled out any medical causes then all that's left is time and wine

Some babies are just frustrated by being babies. She may improve massively when she's mobile, my daughter did. DD was a lot bit of an are but now she's 4, bright and usually delightful. She just likes being busy and independent which is fantastic when they get a bit older.

[KitKatSplat]

Thanks both. She is trying to be mobile at the moment, so hopefully that's it. She has also always been quite independent (although it's impressive to be independent AND needy at the same time, but there you go, she manages it.) I just feel like my head has been put in a blender at the end of the day.

[birdinatree]

Ha ha, yep - remember that, and then suddenly she was lovely for a bit - went in cycles with each 'leap' - soon as she was walking was much better - 2 now and much less pronounced periods of arsiness!

[Munchmallow]

DD1 was a bit of an arse too! She disliked breastfeeding and formula in bottles - the only way she would feed was if someone distracted her. Luckily it meant she slept through the night at a few weeks old.

She also wouldn't nap during the day and had to be constantly stimulated.

Now she is a fabulous adult with challenging children of her own and her MIL describes her son as just the same when he was a baby.

I know the head in a blender feeling well OP and sympathise. Just be prepared for the inquisitive years, they were interesting

[mmmmmchocolate]

My youngest was a bit of an arse too 😂😂 she had allergies too which I think made things much worse as they were not fully diagnosed for a long time. She was full on all the time and I was exhausted. It got easier as time went on, by 2 she was calmer and by 3 she was generally quite lovely. —starting nursery aside— she’s pretty ace now (at 8) but I’ve never had another child 😂😂

[myotherbagisgucci]

My 7 month DD seems to be going through this arse stage as well. She used to be such a happy smiley baby (and still is with everyone but DH and I) but she just moans and whines constantly...it's exhausting. She's also super hard work with bottles/food in general and I think the moaning is linked to hunger. We feed on demand but she refuses most of her milk (tried a large selection of bottles with same result) and she doesn't consume enough food to replace what she's losing through her milk!

I really do feel your pain OP!

[sparklefluff]

I have one of these, he's now 3.

He is less of an arse, however, I do frequently joke that it's lucky for his older brother that he was born first.

Looking back, I think it was mainly frustration. He had so much he wanted to say and no way of saying it. Now he just tells us all very loudly exactly what's on his mind.

So, in summary, it will get easier, but then they may never ever stop talking 😂

[BorahT]

Yes unfortunately I am the proud owner of an arsey baby too 🤨 he’s 15 months old now, I’m lucky if I get 15 minutes without whinging about something 😞 it seemed to get better when he was crawling around 8 months as I know before he was so frustrated at not getting anywhere! But it’s gotten worse as he is getting stronger/bigger and more mobile and constantly having to be removed from dangerous situations or breakable objects and is tantruming already 😵 I’m knackered as he sleeps pretty badly and I find my patience running very low lately! I bloody hopes it gets better soon, I too was hoping to find someone else who was going through the same bloody thing to make me feel less alone/incapable of the parenting thing, so solidarity mama!

[derekthe1adyhamster]

My arsey baby is now 18. He hasn't changed, although he does sleep through the night now 😃

[AgentCooper]

My 9.5 month old is a bit of an arse too

I look at these placid babies who sit happily in their prams while their mums chat and think HOW? DS always wants my attention. He cries if well meaning staff members at our baby classes so much as look at him (while the other babies smile and giggle sweetly). He will only sleep in my arms (trying to get him into his cot for naps but fuck me it's exhausting).

Proof that he's a wee ratbag? Yesterday when I was bathing him he squirted me in the face with a bath toy and laughed I wouldn't give him back though.

[BellMcEnd]

My 5 year old was a massive arse as a baby. He’s still hard work but very entertaining with it. He’s my third and if he’d been my first he’d have been my only one!

[Liefster]

I love this thread title! My son is the same age and he certainly has arsey days too. I've found this age the most challenging so far as he is into everything and nothing keeps him entertained for very long! I love his inquisitiveness but my goodness he is exhausting. He's also in that delightful phase of doing naughty things (climbing, poking the Sky box, standing up in the bath) and every time he is told "no" or I pull him away, he cries. SIGH. We've had a month of things just being a bit shit so I hear you!

[Beautifulblue]

Yep. That's a tough age I remember it well! Constant fussiness... as mentioned above she might be frustrated with her limitations right now. My daughter started walking remarkably at 10 months & shes 1 now & much much happier in general. She does still fuss sometimes though & can be a drama queen when she's tired or falls over. god love her.

[arbrighton]

DS was whingy until he could move independently too