Hi there, Given my son’s rather perculiar situation, I am asking for some advice. My 17 year old son left school last year and subsequently took up an internship; on completion of the internship, he was offered a job with his employer. The job lasted for four months, till he resigned with his colleague (having found out that the company they were working for were committing unlawful acts - namely scamming). With his colleague (who is 40), my son founded a company in the industry they were working in previously. Clearly my son is really good at what he does! From the moment my son started working, I began charging him £70 per week (which was equivalent to almost half of his weekly wages). Then, after he left his job, and I was informed he would struggle to pay £70 per week I had no choice but to cut it to £50 per week. Together, with his colleague, they have been waiting to receive their earnings from a few clients of theirs for a few weeks now, during which I have still been charging £50 per week which my son has been paying. However, given the circumstance, my son only has two weeks’ rent left in savings from the day he took up that job all those months back. He’s barely spent a penny of his earnings, other than for an online course which he studies for at home. Money is relatively tight and I am in receipt of £70 per week for my other son, who is in sixth form. Have I been too harsh as now my son is struggling to continue his company as he once had money and now he doesn’t?
I think charging a token amount while he was in work was fine, according to his means, but not continuing to charge when he was out of work, making him use savings to cover 'rent'. What provisions did you make to plan for the time when the top ups you received for him as a child care to an end?
Im all for adult dc paying board once out of further education/apprentiship etc. I paid myself and intend to do the same for my own.
However I think as he is setting up a business from scratch I would probably give a fairly hefty grace period in order to see the business bed in. Maybe a year? However if it ended and he took up regular paid work the board would resume.
It says she is in receipt of £70pw for her other son. I assume that means tax credits / child benefit. That's why I asked how OP has planned and made provisions for when this money will end (other than charging her DCs for the shortfall).
He still a minor. He shouldn't be paying you anything. On the contrary you should be helping him. Clearly he is trying very hard and you've done a great job raising a responsible young man. If he was lazy I'll agree with you make him responsible but he needs some support right now. Great boy you have.
If your son is under 18 then he needs to be in some kind of education. It is illegal for him to be working full time without any education involved. The internship, while leading to a job, should have been an apprenticeship or something like that.
Oh op I don't exactly want to just copy pp,but £70 a week is nuts. Half his money at 17,is unfair on him. Whether your struggling for money or not,that isn't mainly your money to take. Yes of course he should contribute,but I think maybe £30 is more than ample