I'm struggling today! Read all up on the 4th trimester and DS (8 days old) has been needing lots of cuddles and on/off feeding between 2 and 7 am every night where he won't settle in crib. But today this has started at 230 this morning and is still going. Just won't settle unless on me or partner and only latching on for 5-10 min feeds then falling asleep. Anyone experienced this or have any advice? I just need some sleep!!
Ah, I've been there. Have you tried swaddling? I'd go back to bed with him and just try to relax and doze or if you have someone who could sit and hold him while you sleep you'll be better able to cope if he does it again tonight. He won't be doing this forever, promise. Make sure you're eating and drinking enough.
If you Google safe cosleeping you will find the guidelines. Unicef did a leaflet too, something like 'Caring for your baby at night'. Your partner could always watch over you while you nap if you feel nervous.
Yes feeding lying down can be safe and really helps limit your sleep disturbance - Google safe bedsharing /cosleeping for info on Dos and Don'ts as well as best position if in your bed, and info about cosleeper cots etc.
Although my 9 day old DD isn't breastfed we did have problems as she just wouldn't settle unless being cuddled. We found swaddling has been really helpful with that (fingers crossed that continues). There are lots of YouTube videos in swaddling that helped us.
Hope it gets better for you. The lack of sleep is tough!
I second sleeping in shifts. It’s tricky if you have older children, but if this is your first, literally pass him to your partner gently when you can unlatch him and go to bed any time you can. Your partner can hold him, go for a walk, wear him in a wrap, go for a drive, whatever to give you breaks to sleep. I used to take 1-2 daytime naps and then in the evenings we switched off sitting up (awake!) on the sofa with him. My dh did 9-midnight/1am and then I took over til the morning. He’d bring him for a feed and then take him back so I could go back to sleep. We did this for 6 weeks with our first and 4 weeks with our 2nd and it truly was the key to staying sane and well rested. It does get easier so hang in there. My ds is 8 weeks now and ebf and I’m managing to get more sleep that I do normally so feel amazing.
Thanks so much for all the comments. I'm taking each night as it comes. Last night was better in that DS went down between feeds giving me an hour's nap im between. Im aware that tonight could be totally different so trying to make sure that I sleep during day when I can so that I'm prepared for an all nighter if needs be
Baby and I slept together in big bed, she in the nook of my armpit, with her head resting on my shoulder. I put a pillow on each side of us for safety, and had two pillows behind me for support. When it was time to feed, I would simply slide up against the back pillows and put her on the breast. Even if I fell asleep, she would be safely padded from all sides!
Once we’d learnt to feed lying down, I would simply shift her from one side to another for alternating feeds, both of us barely waking up. From then on, night feeds were a piece of cake
I second everyone who suggested you look up guidelines for co-sleeping; but remember, the most dangerous thing for a baby is a mother so exhausted that her head isn’t working properly!
Very very very normal. But hard work and exhausting none the less. Go to bed. Lay on your side next to your baby (also laying in his side and facing you). Let him latch and lay/snooze while he feeds. Swap sides as needed. As long as your bed is set up for safe cosleepinf (no pillows/duvets near baby) then you can big get some rest and he can feel secure next to mum with free boob access.