Leaving 11 month old dd

[Forevertired19]

I know I've posted this before but as my due date approaches, I'm getting more scared of leaving her.
I'm due ds next week. An our arrangements are my mom will look after dd while myself and dp go to hospital for ds when I'm in labour.
Dd is having some attachment issues right now and as soon as either of me or dp are away from her, she will sob and it breaks my heart. Never mind both of us away. She loves my dm but I'm just so worried about her.
I'm also scared my mom won't get here in time and ds will be born at home. I've told dm that I'll stay home as long as I can if I go into labour at night again but still :( I can't bare to leave my little girl.
What if i go into labour? Would she be able to come with me? If my mom couldn't get to ours in time? How did you deal with childcare when you had your dc2?

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

How far away is your DM Forever? Could you spend some time with her before DS arrives so that your DD is gets used to seeing her more regularly?

Have you considered having a homebirth?

[moita]

Would you consider your DM be your birh partner and DH staying with DD? My back-up plan if I go into labour before MIL gets to ours is DH will drop me at hospital and I'll give birth alone (not ideal I know).

I won't be able to have a homebirth due to a high-risk pregnancy but may be a good idea.

How far from the hospital are you?

[Forevertired19]

They aren't far at all. My mom lives a 5 min drive away and the hospital is a 20 min drive away. I panic now at night and think if I go into labour I'll have him at home but it worries me as I was almost c sectioned with my little girl due to complications. My midwife did say yesterday that if I wanted a home birth I could have one. But not ideal incase something goes wrong. Dm has been round today and dd loves her and spent time with her but I still worry

[BoredOnMatLeave]

Honestly I know it might seem like your DD gets really upset when you leave but its very likely that she forgets after 10 mins and enjoys the time with your DM. Out of the rest of her life a day or 2 whilst you give birth really won't affect your DD.

[Forevertired19]

I think it's more me personally worrying and panicking in all honesty. I trust dm with her more so than anyone else and dds face lit up when she saw dm earlier.
I guess once I get to 5cm I won't care 😂

[bobstersmum]

I had homebirth in place for my last baby only because same as you I was relying on my dm to come look after my other two, as I have fast labour's. As it happened I went to the hospital in the end, but was good to have it in place in case.
I felt exactly like you do when I was due ds2, and he was also 11 months! But you really have to put things into perspective, you have to trust your dm with him, he might cry yes but he will be safe and absolutely fine. You are about to have a baby and you cannot do anything other than you have done. It's natural to worry but please don't!
My ds was fine, and yours will be too. Good luck with the birth.

[bobstersmum]

Sorry I mean your dd! Didn't read properly doh!