Hi,
I will start by saying I am an only child so don't really have any first hand experience of brothers and sisters!
I have 2 DDs - one is almost 3 and the other is 6.5 years. At the moment it feels like they are constantly fighting! DD1 has always been quite quiet and a real rule follower whereas DD2 is more independent and strong willed. Don't get me wrong DD1 has her moments and she can be quite sneaky sometimes - pulling faces at her sister to annoy her or taking a toy off her. DD2 tends to react by shouting at her and sometimes pushing her. I don't really know what to do or if this is normal with siblings?
We did all the normal things to help DD1 get used to DD2 when she was born but she just doesn't seem to like her that much! She says that she annoys her all the time and quite often says that she wishes it was just me, her and her dad again because she used to get all the attention and now she has to share it with her sister. DD2 loves her sister and follows her round (which I realise can be annoying!) and generally wants to be wherever DD1 is. I don't know if I should be disciplining every time one of them does something or if I should let some things go. I think if I pulled them both up every time one of them did/said something it would be all I was doing! But on the other hand I don't want them to think they can get away with being mean to each other.
They do have some lovely moments where they are kind to each other and DD1 is very defensive of her sister to other people but honestly more often than not they aren't nice to each other. My friends who have got 2 children say how lovely they are with other and play together all the time so I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
Does any of this sound normal? Can anyone offer any advice on encouraging DD1 to be kind/patient with her sister? I always imagined they would love playing with each other and it would be me against them but it doesn't really seem to be like that!
Sorry this has taken so long!
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Keepsmiling1 · 15/03/2018 17:01
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