School complaining that I sent my symptom free child into school!

[JKCR2017]

Firstly, I never send my children into school if they are too poorly. It actually really annoys me when people send their sicky kids in spreading it all around to the other children.

Yesterday, DS 7 complained of a tummy ache at school and his teacher sent him home. She said there was a bug going around so it was most likely that and f he was sick I must keep him off for 48 hours.

Well, I got DS home and he was absolutely fine. Running around, eating, drinking. Wanting to go out on his bike.. no symptoms at home whatsoever. I reckon he was just a little upset because he has one to one support and his TA is off poorly herself.

He had tea, bathed and bed like normal and absolutely fine today. So obviously I sent him into school symptomless and healthy.

Everyone was shocked to see him. Teacher seemed unhappy about him being there.

There’s a lady that lives on our street and she’s also a lunch lady at the school. She was questioning it because she was aware he was sent home at lunchtime. (She’s a bit of a busy body as well). I kindly explained that he was very much fine and I would never send a sicky child into school for at least 48 hours. So now I can only assume she’s complained to the school (she complains about everything).

Surely I wasn’t expected to keep my off school when he has no symptoms?

The school would be the first to complain if his attendance was low!

[Couchpotato3]

So has the school /teacher actually said anything to you about this, or is it just your busybody neighbour dinner lady giving you a hard time?

[JKCR2017]

The teacher asked us how he was and said she was surprised he was in (apparently he looked really poorly when she sent him home).

My neighbour is a bit of a complainer. She is like it with everything to do with the school and the village. But I’m paranoid she is telling all her school run friends that I’ve sent my DS in ooorly and I know her well enough to know she will complain to the school.

It has also made me wonder if the school sent him home with little thought as his TA isn’t in and they didn’t have anyone else in the afternoon to take care of him. 🤔

DS has Autism so he can’t always tell us how he’s feeling etc. He’s also ‘pretending’ a lot at the minute. 🤔🤔🤔

[Couchpotato3]

Hmmm, quite a few competing factors there then. You may well be right that school took advantage of him feeling slightly unwell to send him home if his TA wasn't there. Naughty of them, but understandable if they are struggling to cope (and that could be unrelated to your DS). Is there something upsetting him at school at the moment that might explain the pretending?

Ignore the silly neighbour. From what you've said it sounds as though most people will know that she is an interfering loudmouth and won't take any notice of her. The form teacher will know your DS far better than her and will be the first person that anyone in any kind of authority at the school would turn to for an opinion, not the dinner lady.