Hey all,
Would be great to get some advice..
So.. hubby and I had our beautiful baby girl just 8 weeks ago, it has been an extra challangd to us both, aside for getting used to our new lives with her, our families are not around- mine lives abroad and hubby’s are all over the place- meaning we, and I, had and have no sort of help from anyone.. regardless, we are absolutly inlove with our little girl and just really enjoying her.. she is truly the best thing that ever happened to us..
We also moved into a new house a month before she was born. I say ‘new’, but the house is actually old (victorian) and requires full renovations. We knew about this beforehand and when I was pregnant obviously but somehow thought we would get by with a newborn. I possibly was very naive going into this and didn’t quite evaluate the amount of work that is needed.. so far we have taken down an internal wall and currently working on moving the bathroom from downstairs to upstairs, need damp proofing downstairs, full electrics, plumbing and an extension of the kitchen.. so quite a bit going on and this could take some time to compete. The bedrooms upstairs need updating but nothing too major, it’s the downstairs that is in a mess. My husband is very much a DIY person, likes to do a lot himself, which also saves quite a bit of money, but also means that his evenings and weekends are now used for work doing bits of stuff. The house will look amazing once it’s done up, but the way there seem really tough and long. There is work dust around us, and so far baby and I been ‘living’ upstairs where we have our ‘safe rooms’. I also take her out nearly every day which we both really enjoy and we manage it in a way- don’t have much choice either! Having her now, I feel like we are not doing things right by her- meaning we don’t have the space of a sitting room for her to be in, and it honestly breaks my heart. As I’m sure you can all relate when I say this- I want to make sure she is safe and happy and get the very best, as she deserves.. I worry a lot about her being in this environment, can’t really tell if and how much she is exposed to the overall dust. We looked into renting a place for the next few months whilst work is being done but that’s too expensive and as I said- our families are not near by so we can’t just drop on them.. As more dusty work is going to be carried out soon, I will be taking baby with me to visit my family abroad for 3 weeks, while husband stays here to do work. I know she is still very tiny to remember any of this, but how would that- if any- affect her remembering him? Worth mentioning though that as he is doing work most evenings and weekends- since she was born, he hasn’t spent the amount of time he would have wanted with her anyway. Are we doing the right thing? We are also considering, as there will be more work going on at the house, me going away with her again in a month time for couple of months, when she would be 4/5 months old.. good idea to take her away? Both husband and I want and need to put her first ofcourse, especially when It comes to her health- getting her out of the house means she is less exposed to the dust and mess, but also means she is away from her father :/ I already know 3 girls who took their baby to visit their family abroad for 2/3 months, alone without their partner and they don’t even have house issues.. so people do do it...?
Anyone experienced something similar...?
Sorry for the long post..
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Newhere123 · 14/02/2018 09:02
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