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Partner changed feel alone

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Hayles95 Wed 07-Feb-18 20:42:31

I have always wanted a baby i love her to bits but me and my partner arent the same anymore im not sure how i feel about him anymore he only seems to want to have ago at me about the housework or the baby dont kiss very often not had sex since baby as waiting for coil to work not got any friends to talk to any one else thought a baby would make you closer but hadn't thanks xx

WiggyPig Wed 07-Feb-18 20:45:45

How old is the baby?

Hayles95 Wed 07-Feb-18 20:55:15

2 months xx

WiggyPig Wed 07-Feb-18 21:29:41

It is really really hard at 2 months. Just before DD was born I read advice saying not to take any drastic action in a relationship until the baby is 12 months old, then re-evaluate (obviously doesn't apply if there's abuse or something). It is normal to snap at each other, feel like the romance has gone, and that you're on a conveyor belt of endless housework and baby stuff.

Not saying excuse his behaviour - tell him clearly that he needs to step up and do his share not just criticise you about it - but if the relationship was good pre-baby, and the baby is only 2 months, you're still in early days and learning how your relationship will work when there's a whole extra human being involved in it takes time. Good luck.

Hayles95 Wed 07-Feb-18 21:46:32

Thank you i just didn't relise how much it would change our relationship some times its harder then the baby smile just felt a bit down tonight hopeful things will pick up xx

WiggyPig Wed 07-Feb-18 22:22:42

If you get a moment when the baby is asleep and you're not also asleep sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling. I think there is a lot of pressure on parents to feel #blessed #grateful #evercloser when actually you're dealing with a massive hormonal come-down, a screaming baby and a moody partner. He may be feeling just as worried as you are. Hope things pick up smile

KimmySchmidt1 Thu 08-Feb-18 05:10:04

Relationships are hard and take time to learn about each other and how to communicate. Babies make al this harder on the short term because it puts so much stress, pressure and tiredness on you both. Be kind to yourselves about how hard babies are and don’t eclect your relationship to take a front seat just now.

Get through the next few months and you will both feel closer together and more of a team.

Hayles95 Sun 11-Feb-18 17:59:26

Thank you both i talked to him we sorted things out smile xx

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