Hi all,
I suppose I'm writing this just for support!
My daughter is six months old and has a cows milk protein allergy, she also has silent reflux which she has ranitidine and gaviscon for.
Since the medicated milk was introduced things have improved slightly but by no means significantly.
She is so clingy, she won't go to my husband, mum or friends. She basically clings to me 24/7!
I don't get a break ever unless she's asleep and I go for a bath.
She's co sleeping just so I can get some rest!
She won't take more than 3oz at a time and I've been weaning for about 3 weeks.
She is harder work than any child I've ever know (my first was a dream)!
I feel so alone and low, I'm already being treated for PND but this has me at breaking point!
I'm so resentful because my husband doesn't have to deal with any of this! The burden is 100% mine!
Please don't judge or give unhelpful comments such as "you've spoilt her" I really don't need to hear that I'm failing since my subconscious tells me that hourly!
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Mamma2010 · 09/01/2018 07:54
Your defiantly not failing! I don't think there is such a thing as spoiling your baby (I know some people disagree).
It's only natural as your baby probably spends most of her time with you? You know how to settle and comfort her best as your around her the most. My LO is much more aware of her surroundings now ( 4months) that she gets upset when with someone else and she can't see me. Admittedly I am too quick to rush over as I hate seeing her getting upset.
What I've recently started to do is putting her down at night but if she wakes me and OH take it in turns to go and settle her so she comes to realise she can't have me all the time and this has started to work. A friend suggested leaving LO with a trusted family member for a few hours a week and gradually up this to nearly a full day so they get used to you being away. I haven't been brave enough to do this yet! But please don't feel your spoiling her, but remember to try and take some time for yourself even if you just pop out for a couple of hours while she's with your OH. 
My DD was like that. 
What milk has she been moved on to? Only reason I ask is because we firstly tried Nutramigen which helped a bit but when we moved to Neocate she was like a new baby. She is not having any soya is she? It's very common to be allergic to both
Oh OP - sympathies.
My 5 month old has got CMPI mad because he's breast fed I've been on a dairy free diet for about 9 weeks now and it's hard work
I am absolutely dreading the weaning process.....I really can't face the thought of it because it must be so difficult and stressful.
My first son was very, very clingy with me and we co-slept until he was 10 months old because it was he only way either of us, but especially me, got any sleep!
It is obviously difficult for you when you leave her with other people but please don't feel guilty because it's so important that you get time to yourself otherwise you will burn out!!
I second the recommendation to try another milk and also look at perhaps altering her anti-reflux meds?
And it may be controversial but have you tried cranial Osteopathy? I went to one with my baby and she worked wonders. They have a lot of demand for babies who are high needs and in general people who use them report a significant improvement!!
Hi all,
I have a baby carrier which is awesome but when it's cold/raining it's a no go!
She's on aptamil pepti! I have wondered if she needs a different milk but HV keeps dismissing me
Thank you all so much for taking the time to respond, sometimes it's great just knowing someone is listening xx
Keep fighting, you can push for a referral to a dietician, especially since you are now weaning. Hang on in there, it does get easier
Hi OP.
You sound like me 6 months ago, it was really awful. My baby wouldn't sleep for more than an hour at a time, rarely napped, cried all day and never went to the toilet (like one in 10 days and it was like pebbles - sorry TMI) he had all of the signs and I was constantly dismissed as it being colic and constipation by the GP. Turns out my instinct was right and it is CMPA. He is now 13m.
The medications didn't help him much in all fairness, so I stopped them, but the GP swapped him to Neocate milk powder which is amino acid based for extra sensitive tummies. He's been a dream since then and so much better. Also, and I didn't know this for a while, soya has a very similar effect on babies to CMP (HV said something about the protein being similar). I cut this out of his diet too and the improvement was amazing. Took about 3 weeks but it cleared. He now has oat milk in his porridge and I use that when cooking (and nobody notices the difference).
It's so hard, especially with another DC and the exhaustion. I have another child and I felt guilty all the time that the baby was so poorly and he didn't get enough of my time. Sending strength and hugs to you, I know how you feel.
You are doing a fantastic job, and it does get easier. Push for your dietician referral, and try again to get them to change the milk.
Best of luck to you 
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Ladies thank you sincerely for all your words of support and advice! I'm blown away by your kindness.
She doesn't like the taste at all but we will power through and pray for the best!
My doctor was awful at first but after some choice words and a bit of a breakdown she listened and we hailed results!
I so glad I came here because I don't feel alone anymore! Thank you again for being so helpful, I wish you all the very best 💖💖💖
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