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Feel like such an idiot

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ThoughACandleBurnsNoOnesHome Sun 17-Dec-17 13:59:23

Went out for a spot of lunch today with dh and 9 month old DD. DD is crawling and rolling all the time and doesn't want to stay still anymore when being changed. I tried everything to distract her so I could put a new nappy on and she was having none of it. She was getting stressed and so was I. Then she gOt upset which I turn caused me to get upset and more stressed out. All of this happened in the ladies toilets! Eventually a women asked if I needed a hand and we got things sorted but I feel so embarrassed and humiliated that I couldn't get a nappy changed and was upset in the middle of the place. I'm still upset now I'm home and I feel like my dh wasn't the least bit supportive and have had a row with him as he didn't offer me any comfort just said 'she's a baby'. Has anyone else felt like such a knob and a failure with these things?

Candyfloss1122 Sun 17-Dec-17 14:03:20

Yes absolutely, we have all been there. Some days are harder than others.

If that lady hadn't have been there, you would have got the nappy on one way or another. You aren't a knob or a failure. I have been in a similar situation where a stranger has helped distract my baby who was being changed and becoming very distressed by the loud hand dryers. Please don't beat yourself up about it,I'm sure you are a wonderful mum.

WitchDancer Sun 17-Dec-17 14:06:37

Been there, done that. Completely melted down and felt like the worst parent in the world. Thankfully it gets easier as they get older but you still get the feeling that you're rubbish at this parenting lark sometimes.

RosieposiePuddingandPi Sun 17-Dec-17 14:09:35

Yep we've all been there. I used to get especially stressed when things went wrong in public (and still do). You certainly aren't a failure and I'm sure you're a fab mum.
DS also became super wiggly at 9 months so we changed to pull up nappy pants instead of traditional ones so I didn't have to suffer the horror of pinning him into a changing table. They might be worth looking into as in my opinion any little thing to make things easier is worth it!!

Lules Sun 17-Dec-17 14:10:28

These things happen to everyone sometimes. I bet the woman was happy to help and feel like she did a good thing.

Tiredmum100 Sun 17-Dec-17 14:14:14

One of my dc was a nightmare for nappy changes, wouldn't keep still for a second. It's annoying!

steppemum Sun 17-Dec-17 14:16:39

Oh don't worry, we've all been there, and I bet that lady remembered her own manic anppy moments and was only too pleased to help.

my worst one was on a ferry, dc1 was only 8 weeks old, so I was very inexperienced with poonamis. Ferry was diserted, I was still a physical wreck too.
The ferry was rocking a lot in bad weather, he had a poonami and was soaked chin to feet, the changing room/loo was FREEZING and I stripped him off, and then discovered I had run out of wipes. I couldn't reach the loo roll, I couldn't pick him up without getting covered in poo, I could only do anything with one hand as I had to hold on to him due to movement of the boat and not one single person came in to the loos for about 10 minutes. I was standing there with a cold wet poo covered tiny baby who was of course crying, and I just didn't know what to do.

Eventually I think I wrapped him back in dirty clothes, picked him up, and got some loo roll, then cleaned him up.
Got back outside completely taumatised, and dh just went on reading the paper. He couldn't work out why I was in such a state. I only had one change of clothes as well, the rest were in the car, and he had another poonami before we docked.

steppemum Sun 17-Dec-17 14:20:08

my best friend had a dd who pulled he nappy off in bed. If it was dirty, she then smeared poo all over the wall and bed.
She did this so often that in the end they used to use packing tape round her nappy at night to keep it on!

EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic Sun 17-Dec-17 14:25:23

Agree that you would have sorted it had the lady not been there and we all have days like that. The mums who appear perfect are just faking it fsmile

Sorry your DH wasn’t more supportive. The next time you are out and the baby needs changing, I’d tell DH to do it fgrin

Kelsoooo Sun 17-Dec-17 14:27:58

Do I know you steppemum? Haha. My dad was a bugger for doing that :-)

ThoughACandleBurnsNoOnesHome Sun 17-Dec-17 14:32:10

Thanks everyone. Feeling a bit better and laughing at the image of babies wrapped in duck tape lol smile

BellyBean Sun 17-Dec-17 22:11:54

We've all been there!

I ended up crying in the swimming pool changing rooms when DD was about 2. I'd thought it would be easier if I got changed while DH stayed with DD in the pool, then I shower and change DD while DH gets ready.

But DD refused to get under the shower and I had clothes so couldn't force her. She has eczema so I needed to shower off the chlorine.

In retrospect it wasn't a big deal and I could have just left it and showered her at home, but for some reason I melted.

Cutesbabasmummy Tue 19-Dec-17 14:00:00

Defo go to pull up nappies!

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