I have 2 young children, DS just turned 3 and DD almost 18 months. I am feeling so overwhelmed, upset and frankly trapped by the children/life and I need help to move forward.
My DH and I have recently separated as a result of his affair, although we are attempting to work through it. That has added another dimension but ultimately my feelings in relation to life with the children etc is the same.
I am from overseas so I have no family support and DH’s parents are 7 hours drive away. We are alone.
Since DS was born I have not had a night ‘off’ (overnight). I am absolutely exhausted.
The children are extremely full on. They are up (screaming) from around 5.15am daily. The days consist of basically one or other of them crying all day. They will not play, I HAVE to be there. I can’t sit down or the baby climbs on my demanding to be fed (this is literally constantly all day). I can’t put the television on as the 3 year old starts to get completely unmanageable if he watches tv.
We go out, but increasingly they are unmanageable outside of the house. If we walk, the older one cries to be carried so I end up having to push a massive double buggy then the youngest one goes ballistic to walk which is impossible while pushing the older one. If they both walk they run off in opposite directions.
Every single day, one or both of them has a massive tantrum while we are out, it is exhausting and embarrassing (and I am not easily embarrassed!)
The older one has also, since about Sept, taken to come in beside me during the night. I am too exhausted to stop him but I hate it as he fidgets and sniffs and coughs etc etc. Then up at ridiculous o’clock daily.
I feel so upset as this weekend I went out with friends on Sat night just to a comedy thing. I had to leave early and didn’t drink as I knew I’d be up stupidly early. Even in doing that I was exhausted yesterday. I feel so trapped by it all. I cannot have anything resembling a ‘normal’ life. All of my friends with similar aged children are starting to come out the other side and we are still knee deep in shit.
I really thought it would be getting better by now but it’s not at all.
DH comes every evening to put the children to bed, and stays here at the weekends to help. I am a SAHM.
DS goes to nursery 2 mornings a week so that provides some relief. But everything else just feels so overwhelming all the time. The crying/screaming/no sleeping/no time at all to myself/no time for our marriage etc etc etc.
Any advice? Tips? Experience?
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2 young children - feel completely out of my depth, annoyed and trapped
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Luckystar1 · 11/12/2017 06:44
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chiaseeddisapointmentagain ·
11/12/2017 09:52
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