Routine??

[ARS157]

I got an email from bounty and it just made me burst in to tears! So silly. It was saying now my baby is 12 weeks old he should be in some sort of routine now and having regular naps and giving me some short bursts of time to myself? Eh? What!? It just seems everywhere I look babies who were born around the same time as mine are starting to settle, sleep a bit better, have some sort of routines being established... but mine is still so unsettled and no matter how much we try to maintain routine nothing works! It’s just got to me today. I was at a party last night and met a girl who’s baby was born the same day. Her baby sleeps 10pm-10am and is EBF?! Eh how is that even possible? Others are starting to at least settle for 4-5 hour periods at night. Not mine. My little boy doesn’t even settle when I’m holding him half the time so I can’t even get moments of peace by cuddling him. He’s forever grunting and rumbling and crying. He’s my second baby and I honestly feel like I’m losing the plot with him. Can anyone else please reassure me that this isn’t completely abnormal? It’s so lovely not knowing anyone else whose baby is quite frankly an unsettled little shit.

[ARS157]

Lonely not lovely!

[makemineatriple]

Never believe the people who say their baby sleeps 10-10. Further questioning usually uncovers a couple of night feeds and fair bit of crying.

And even if it were true, a sleep regression is just around the corner at 4 months to totally upend their perfect sleeper!

I have two DCs as well - one was in a fairly good routine in the day at that age, but woke every 2 hours in the night for a feed. The other never really did routine til he was about 7 months.

It's hard, but try to go with it. Definitely get him checked for reflux/milk allergies etc as these can make sleep tricky and lead to lots of crying.

Totally feel your pain OP. Sending you a big virtual fist bump of solidarity. It WILL get better. xx

[userabcname]

Oh my gosh don't worry! Mine is nearly 6 months and we have no routine! We were just about getting there with bedtime and wake-up time when we hit 4 months and it all went out the window. He will nap but he he is a "high maintenance napper" as I call him so needs rocking/ bouncing or whatever to keep him asleep. He wakes up anytime between 4.30am-7.30am. He falls asleep at night anytime from 6.30pm-8.30pm. I've tried all the tricks with establishing a routine but he is determined to do it all his own way! Also he ONCE slept 7 hours in one go. Once. We went through a phase of about 2 weeks where he slept a stint of 4 hours for the first part of the night. We are now back to waking up every 2 hours. Just don't compare yourself to others - do what you need to do for your baby and remember they can change at any time (my friend's good 12 hour sleeper is now waking every 2-3 hours and she can't believe it! She's taken back all her 'helpful' bits of advice she gave to me about sleep as she's realised there's more to it than she thought!).

[Katkin14]

The mention of grunting makes me immediately think silent reflux.

[ARS157]

Thanks everyone! Much appreciated, feeling a little better just knowing others have had/are having same issues!

I should have said he is getting 0.35mls of Ranitidne three times a day for silent reflux. He’s had this for past 6 or 8 weeks and no difference so have a GP app on Tuesday as HV wants to see if doctor will want to try Gaviscon instead as ranitidine doing sod all! Unless it’s not silent reflux...!

[Chaosofcalm]

My 18 months old DD does not sleep through yet.

Babies are not suppose to sleep through.

[Chaosofcalm]

ARS157 has the randatidne been recalculated for your baby’s current work.

[sthitch]

What’s your routine with your LO?

I have an 11 week old, we have a rough routine which has worked for us, we found shorter times between feeds has helped us.

8am feed

10am short nap 30mins

11am feed

12-2pm long nap

2pm feed

4pm short nap 30 mins

5pm feed

7pm nappy off and bath time

745pm feed and straight down asleep (is shattered at this point as no short nap and nappy off/bath tires her out)

Will sleep until either 3/4/5am and will need one feed and goes straight back to sleep and the routine starts again.

These are rough times, obviously not bang on but near on...if we are out she might sleep longer and different times.

She’s bottle fed, takes 6oz each time. She also has a dummy for sleep which helps a lot.

[gamerpigeon]

My baby is 7 months - sleeps like a dream at night but still only has really short naps and completely random as to when she will take them! So I don't think it's anything I'm doing, it's just my baby.

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