Hi everyone... First thread so not really sure what to expect but have something on my mind. My DS was born Oct 17, he's 6 1/2 weeks old I love him to pieces as you all probably know the feeling. I haven't really been out since having him, once or twice for an hour or two down the pub with The SO or my girlfriends when my parents offer to look after LO. Even when I'm only out for an hour or two I feel guilty. Me and my SO live apart (halfway there to a mortgage deposit) so he has had nights away from DS and has been out with his friends to wet the baby's head which is fine, however my girlfriends asked me if I want to go out and after a lot of thought I asked SO if he feels confident enough to have DS for the night and he's said yes, however I can't help but feel guilty for going out for the night with my friends. Pre pregnancy I was out every weekend and I do miss it but I feel so bad for leaving LO alone with his dad for the night. My parents have given me a hard time for it as well and we had a full blown argument last night as they've said I'm a mum not a "single girl who can go and party anymore" and I think another reason I feel guilty is because he's still very young. Now the days come round I don't know whether to go because as much as I want to I can't help but feel guilty I need advice!
It’s really hard leaving your baby for the first night out but don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about the ocassional night out. On my first night out after my baby was born I really wondered if I could leave her but I also knew that having a bit of time out and a laugh with my friends made me a better parent. It made me feel more like myself and I felt that was good for my baby.
I'll be honest - I didn't leave my baby for the first time until she was 6 months old and that was only as I was going to a wedding. Perhaps if you want to go out, maybe SO could come around to your house and stay and you could sleep on the couch of you are worried?
Thank you all for your advice I'm glad I got your replies! I'm going along to a few pre drinks with them as I'd like to let my hair down with them then going home when everyone goes clubbing to be with DS and SO X
Last night I drove (4.5 hours - awful traffic) to an engagement party, and then back (only 2.5hrs thankfully) afterwards, because I would rather be with my PFB than stay over, even though DH was with her.
The baby needs to spend time with his dad so they can bond, and his dad needs to learn how to look after him just like you. Maybe your SO even likes spending time with his child! So it's very sensible for them to do overnights whether you're out at the time or at home baking apple pie.